You are also not put on this planet to fester on your lonely own in a flat.

You need to throw yourself out of your comfort zone Moonbeam, by that i mean stop avoiding other people. Once you get to understand that other people are faking it and actually mentally retarded in one way or another thenyou will soon begin to feel better than yourself.

Take a job as a taxi driver and get into character, everyone fakes it out there.

Certainly needs a change,a holiday for a start...

Moonbeam is getting lots of good advice

I think he is someone who chose his life 20 years ago, a professional gambler
I think he has enjoyed a lot of it particularly the poker and been reasonably successful

But now it has become much harder, he barely scrapes a living, he finds he has isolated himself, and he is hating his life

But he only has 2 options
1. Carry on as he is, and hope his gambling looks up
2. or change it
and only he himself can do it

He can go on the dole if he wants, he is entitled to
But he better check on how much savings he is allowed or he might find himself worse off, he has to hide anything over the limit
For this he will get a princely £70 a week or near that I think, but will be pushed

The choice is Moonbeam's, no one else's
and yes life is not always easy

Personally I'd rather do a part time job than sign on. The ****s want to know the ins and outs of all sorts before they give you anything. I'd have to be on deaths door before I asked them for anything. That's why I feel no guilt when I give them next to nothing in tax.

those at the top, they couldn't do what we do Moony - they're coonts ,they wouldn't last 2 minutes on here  they want to make money out of other peoples money by fleece rather than thought 

What's all this crap 'advice' about hiding money and lying about where he's been for twenty years? Doesn't anybody tell the truth any more?

Cheers my Friends

I really appreciate all the well thought out posts & is interesting to hear everybody's point of view , especially yours Coach (you're a real Mate) & tend to understand me better than most as have lived a similar life for a long while now

I totally agree with what you say about society & those wearing rose tinted specs at the top

Gery you're also right as I have enjoyed to some extent making my own way in life & have taken a fair deal of pride in being able to do so (as others say it really isn't that easy)

Times are tough & have to face up to that reality but by going & doing a menial job I feel I'd be lowering myself & would lose that sense of pride , losing my true identity in a sense 

It's not that I'm lazy & don't want to work but any kind of job I'd be likely to get wouldn't exactly be rewarding to do in any way for me , so what would a job actually be achieving for me in the long run ?
I don't exactly need another £7.50 - 10 per hour if it's not going to make me any happier , all it would mean is that I'm still living in a flat in an unknown community & could then fester away further , it would never increase my self worth monetary or mentally I feel

also I do enjoy socializing I'm quite a sociable person
I was always out & about in my 20's & generally liked by all so I'm not some social misfit , yes people have let me down in the past so is difficult to put too much faith into meeting new people (especially making new mates - as Coach says)

It's not nice being so isolated but that's the sad reality of the world we're forced to live in today

I also wouldn't be robbing the state out of housing benefit like millions of immigrants do , which is the Real problem
I've worked hard all my life to be able to house Myself , so I can't actually see them being too bothered paying my council tax & handing me £70 per week to pay bills
Though you're right it's hardly a long term solution , but judging by the way they run this country , they don't do long term solutions anywayz

Sorry you seem to be accepting the dole idea now, that is perfectly ok with me.
I did not read the end of your post.

ta for that Moonbeam, yes I have reconciled myself to my life now.

I assume you are going to sign on though, your previous post suggested that?

So please stick to that, just check your savings limit, must be on line somewhere.

Why people go out of their way to try to give advise to you is beyond me. Maybe they are bored or it somehow makes them feel good?

Your threads just look like trolling to me. Can't wait for the next load of old pony, sure I won't have to wait too long.

What is it you do again crags .. I seem to forget now

Moonbeam. I'm sure that you will do whatever is best for you, personally. That seems to be your only interest...yourself!
You seem prepared to go to any lengths to dodge the system such as disclosure of assets, availability for work etc.
Doing jobs that you consider too menial for your greatness are not considered worthy of your efforts.
What you DON'T seem to realise is that, to an employer, you have very little worth. You have no qualifications, no work experience and no interest. I*f it came to a choice between you and a 16 year old school-leaver, you would be second choice. You have no desire to work and no desire to change. The only thing you DO with any passion is moan and complain!! You'd get top marks for that!

Why don't you actually THINK about what you are going to do...and just DO it?? Why is there always such agonising about every little inconsequence?
Take some time to consider what you HAVE got (and I don't mean your ****ing house or flat) rather than what you haven't?
I suppose you could always join the Navy as a Rear-Admiral and work your way up! Would that be suitable for your skills?

Moaning and procrastinating will get you nowhere.

I'd try to get fit and then try and get a dead end job if I were you.  You can always pack it in if it isn't for you.  Don't be a wimp and do feck all.

It might be that you've got ADD related depression which isn't depression, more like mood swings and you can snap out of it.

What sort of pension do you hope to get?

Have you given up on the idea of wife and family?

If you sell your flat to get a cheaper house I assume, and live off the difference, that is decreasing your assets?

Moony has probably had bad experiences with work


and maybe even family (and women) 

he needs to find a like minded buddy to share a few beers  and watch the football ,Rugby etc

That may be Coachbuster, it is difficult to know his problem without actually knowing him.

I think most people do accept that we have to work, even if we may be reluctant about it.

His sole aim seems to be not working. Really that is a bit ridiculous, there are some cushy jobs about.

Actually if he has paid up on his flat and has no mortgage he is in a good position.

To me it would help him to get some sort of job to get him out, and we all need money.

I don't know, he seems so determined not to move on, he could have psychiatric problems.

But Doctors do not put people on sick nowadays,

some folk breeze through life gery - work doesn't pose any obstacle at all - some even love their jobs  - as menial as they may be ,some folk get on well with others ,work can be a social network to some  - but if moon has had a long succession of  soul destroying jobs he has possibly been put off for life  .

there are some really nasty people out there -  he feels safe in his own 4 walls ,but at the same time he is looking  to improve his surroundings but feels trapped .

i don't think there is much on the way of work for folk like moony - he needs to make Poker pay ,but that has become so difficult  - 

gambling has provided a way out for him in life and it looks like the game is up temporarily .

without it life might be extremely bleak - he is lucky to have his own place - sharing a house is no picnic when you have a social phobia