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I'm so fed up with Gambling
I'm so fed up with Gambling
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get a dog
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it also sounds like your mindset definitely needs changing, not that im one to talk because im the same.
for eg. I think you've reached that stage where u think whatever you do, its all rather pointless anyway, I used to be a church verger and the rector always used to quote me because I moaned about mopping the porch floor because it would only be dirty again afterwards when people return their tread over it! if you just continue the way you are, it WILL get worse, you will eventually become, if you haven't already, completely isolated and actually be afraid to venture outside . you need to be with real people, again, id say its very important to force yourself to do something u enjoy, like an art course, years ago,i enrolled in an evening class and it was one of the most enjoyable nights of my entire week - every week.No use saying whats it all for? just enjoy it for tis own sake, and u may make good friends with ahem!! a lady! |
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Don't forget to have a larf
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W7FcEODeT_o |
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give a little whistle
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some good advice here MC
evening class i a great idea , i did a French class one year even though i hated school ,but made some good friends and improved my French . part time job would be another - get one thats part enjoyable even if it pays rubbish - take a break from gambling -it makes you crazy after a while . |
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You seem too wrapped up in your own cocoon at the moment, its obvious you are not going to change the way you get your income that is for sure, but you do need to change other aspects of your life, if your not interested in going to the pub then join a sports facility of some sort maybe something you have not tried before such as Bowls, tennis, table tennis, something that helps keep you a bit fit & gets you interacting with other people.
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indeedy - i fit in a game of tennis every sunday now pumpy even though i am missing an english premier league game to bet on .
 # just a case of getting over what some would see as an addiction |
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1_RZAGnFcI4
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Good for you Coach, I play some sort of sport all year, Bowls in the summer, Table tennis in the winter, most clubs are always looking for people to join, it can become a social thing as well as a sporting one, it can certainly help get someone out of a rut.
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...and it keeps you fit and healthy too pumps - win win
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Squash is another good sport pumps and a way to meet new folks as well as getting fit. Pretty much every sports centre with courts will have a league running. You don't need to be that good, just have a vague sense of coordination about you and you can have a good game with players of a similar skill and improve from there.
McM, whatever you decide to do please do something to get you out of this place you have found yourself in as it's far from healthy. |
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Moon will be back on the thread around 3am
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I know Slippy just wish i could have my money back & start again , just another mess i've got myself into , the trouble is i need to find another place even if i sell/rent this
 lol Coach i didn't wanna wake up yesterday , have hardly slept again |
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Your doctor is correct.
Google Side Effects of Stress.it'll scare the sh1t out of you. As said previously.If you sit on here day after day,there is only one way you're heading. |
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you wouldn't believe me if i told you seaview , i thought i was going insane
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Go for a brisk walk. Pick a circular route about 45 mins.you'll then try and beat the time each go.
I gaurantee you will feel 10x better after a month.less stressful,clearer mind,and will be able to make sensible decisions. If you dont do this.you will have failed yourself....it costs nothing. |
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walkings a good shout.
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are u saying u lost a considerable amount a money gambling & u don't like the rat race of a 9-5 job
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No it's more i'm losing my sense of reality & am wondering what the point of living is at all
The money's kind of irrelevant , what's the point of working when i'm completely depressed & don't need the money |
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yes to the walking suggestions, im going out after the match to see waht i can ponce form all the local supermarkets on reduced to clear, takes a good 40 minutes going in and out and all about
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Moonbeam what`s your history.
How did you get the money to buy a flat if you have no skills? |
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through gambling Angel
I went through a fair few bad patches years ago but made good money mainly from poker over the last 5-10 years or so while i lived in a rented room (a depressing life for many years) |
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I guess as naydam said "i'm not quite cut out for this life yet"
I seem to make mistakes whatever i try & do but this time i've ended up in a right mess |
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This is a very sad thread. Young man in the prime of his life, owns his own property, 50k in the bank and obviously intelligent but severely depressed and feeling isolated and lost in life. Hard to evaluate the situation when you don`t know the individual personally, but it seems to me that McM suffers from severe anxiety brought about by low self esteem. Because of this he can`t work (whether for minimum wage or even 15k a week) and probably got stick from family and former friends because of this and called a lazy b******, so he keeps moving and isolates himself to get peace, frightened that new "friends" will eventually form the same opinion, but this actually just aggravates the situation.
I`m glad you finally went to the doctor mate but you should take up his offer and speak to a professional. I wish you well, Dr Mac |
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moonbeam
When was the last time you were genuinely happy and why ? |
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The worst thing that you can do when severely depressed is gamble, drink or take drugs and McM admits to doing the lot. He needs to get stop the lot and see a professional counselor.
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again you're quite accurate Mac
I guess i do have anxiety problems which have developed over the years but i've never really been fully aware of it , i was quite outgoing & bold when i was younger but i guess i changed in my mid 20's , i had a lot of trouble around that time & stopped going out as much , but then the more people just leave you alone , and kinda turns into a vicious circle , i was never keen on busy nightclubs later on , they made me feel paranoid & isolated , and preferred to stay in a lot more Friends & Family did think i was lazy , but they never realized how hard i actually worked at everything , it's easy to take a cheap jibe at people but it kinda affects you after a while ... I've never actually had a break in life since then , then they get a bit jealous when you've made money (dad attacking me) so yeah i guess i have always wanted away from everything , but in reality i don't , i'm a good person that's misunderstood but i have no interest in making new friends here I think i do need to talk to somebody as it's quite scary just talking about it all my life was never meant to be like this |
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I don't take drugs & i don't drink a lot tbh
I like a couple to chill out when stressed that's all & smoke a bit but i'm not drinking tonight Ayers i don't know when i was last happy it's been so long |
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Winning doesn't make me happy it's just numbers , if i won a huge amount i'd probably be sad as i have nobody to share it with
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although i don't like losing , that's why gambling doesn't suit me any longer it's a no win situation
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it worries me talking about it all
a big factor of serious stress is isolation as seaview says by googling it a bit |
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Mc M, I have sent you my mobile number in a pm, give me a call tomorrow. You have to have a break and take a holiday and stop playing poker for awhile. Having read the thread again I'm very worried about you.
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Why Me though .. surely tons of us gamble .. i know a few of you live alone too but may not be isolated .. or doesn't it bother you as much the older you get
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When people suffering from anxiety go out socialising, they drink fast and furiously to overcome it. Problem is, the next day when the affects of the alcohol wears off, they become deeply paranoid thinking they may have said something out of place and offended someone or made a complete fool of themselves and this causes severe depression.
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Ask your doctor to arrange a meeting with a counselor McM. Don`t worry about talking about it, they are very professional and everything is 100% confidential. You must address this problem NOW. STOP gambling at present and take slippy`s sound advice.
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surely it's thread over. the advice is stop gambling it's not good for you as a person... and that you should broaden your horizons and make more of an effort to get out and do and see more.
failing that, just stay in bed giving yourself some dutch ovens all day. you'll get some corkers. |
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It`s easy for all of us to tell McM to get out more, but this is extremely hard for someone with anxiety to do. However, with professional help it can easily be overcome. All the best McM.
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Gambling aside you seem have become so insular that your confidence levels outside your own four walls is probably at zero, hence not wanting to go out & mix with the world at large, this sheltered lifestyle has led to acute depression, this needs to be addressed McM, I hope you take some of the advice offered & seek some help.
I wish you all the best. |
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>It`s easy for all of us to tell McM
Yeah, it is. But the solutions are in this thread. The bottom line is he needs to step away from gambling all day to earn a survivable income. |