We want to share an important update with our Betfair Community users.
Over the coming months, the Betfair Community platform will be winding down. The final active day for the platform will be December 21st. From December 22nd, users will no longer be able to access the platform.
Your discussions, insights, engagement, and, most importantly, feedback have helped shape the platform and guided innovation. Your feedback continues to be important to us, and we will continue to listen via our dedicated feedback channels, as well as through product testing and innovations.
To share your feedback and experience, visit: https://support.betfair.com/app/home
Chit Chat
There is currently 1 person viewing this thread.
if you had a 1 year old child and you are married and also have met someone else and have spent a night out together and left in the morning which was fantastic and made you feel alive again what would you do ?
only helpful advice please ?
only helpful advice please ?
sort by:
Show
per page
Replies: 133
|
By:
dont let the wife find out imo.
|
|
By:
cards on table if it was me
|
|
By:
There nothing you can do , you may try and fight it but it will end in tears, the pull of your hormones will be too strong
|
|
By:
If you love your wife then just put it behind you..if uv fallen out of love then its major problem time
|
|
By:
thats what is happening lippy i feel like im not being honest with myself.
|
|
By:
Batman/Superman costumes for sale on ebay.
|
|
By:
thinly veiled..'how can I keep sh@gging this bird without the wife finding out'
|
|
By:
It very difficult , best thing you can hope is that you get sick of the new one and it fizzles out .
|
|
By:
A terrible dillema and a no win situation because whatever oine does, in 10 yeas time one will be wondering what would have happened had one taken the option that one did not take.
One should never have put oneself in this position, but now, having put oneself in this position, it is an impossible decision between selfishness and martyrdom! I hope this clarifies the matter. Dr Aristotle Slicer PhD MB BS B Pharm MRCVS DRCOG Cert BHD Professor of Human Relationships Sorting North Southeast Mumbai University |
|
By:
Go now before your child realizes what is going on, then it won't matter when they never see you again.
|
|
By:
Nomadic Way
It might be a good idea to remember your marriage vows-or did you have your fingers crossed as you were saying them ? |
|
By:
I'd rather leave while I'm in love....
|
|
By:
Who has the biggest t1ts?
|
|
By:
People usually only ask for advice when they already know the answer, but wish they didn't.
|
|
By:
being honest to myself i love my wife and would never harm her but where we have drifted apart i no longer fancy her anymore.i know that sounds bad but the truth. all i told her was maybe i need some space and her answer was straight away i will make life very hard for you to see your daughter. i've not told her i've **ed only that i feel very sad inside and close to looking else where for someone to make me feel alive again just like how you used to make me feel.
it would break my heart if i could only see my daughter once a week maybe even destroy me. |
|
By:
momm - how perceptive!
|
|
By:
Just forget about your daughter, you will get over it in a few months.
|
|
By:
Your wife is clearly a ** then!
|
|
By:
:) I can't claim it as an original thought unfortunately. Read it somewhere ages ago, but it's so true.
|
|
By:
^ sorry i've not told her i've **ed only that i am thinking of doing it .
|
|
By:
it would break my heart if i could only see my daughter once a week maybe even destroy me.
So why do it? The grass, greener? It ain,t. |
|
By:
NM- I seem to remember you as one good egg on here, I do not envy you your predicament or the decision you have to make. But believe me, you had better be very wealthy if you gonna leave home!
|
|
By:
meant not **ed ^^^
|
|
By:
You will become obsessed with the new one , she will make you feel young and alive , you will be madly in lust .
Then the wife will find out , the chemical attraction with the new one will fade , you will wonder how the hell you have ended up alone in a bedsit saddled with paying child support with limited access to your child. You will by this stage hate the new woman and be seeking councilling. |
|
By:
Ironic that your name is Nomadic. :)
|
|
By:
You should only stay with your wife if she makes you happy. Dont settle, or stay through fear. Using your child against you is a horrid thing to do - I would have walked there and then!
|
|
By:
lippy tells the truth
|
|
By:
lippy is shrood!
|
|
By:
"People usually only ask for advice when they already know the answer, but wish they didn't"
Now i dont know if this is the hangover/alcohol talking but that is the best quote i've heard in a long long time. |
|
By:
Perhaps you should start a thread tittle
"Has anyone left their wife and kid for a girlfriend?", I would like to hear some horror stories..... |
|
By:
Corrrrect lippy, it's lust not love.
Your first mistake was telling the wife you were thinking of straying. Not as big a mistake as actualling banging no.2 obviously. :( |
|
By:
I left my mrs and daughter for a month, got píssed up every night put it about a bit but I soon got bored of it and ended up begging to be taking back.
|
|
By:
the new woman maybe is just a fling but i know deep down what ever happens me and my wife have drifted to far apart imo and she feels it can be repaired but how can i tell her i love you but no longer fancy you as a husband should ?
i've spoken to my mate who was my bestman at my wedding he told me her family have money and will try to push me out of your daughters life and replace me if they can so he told me to put my happyness a side and think of your daughter and wife. but then i told him i will only get hurt in the long run and become very unhappy. |
|
By:
NM- in that case you have made your decision. Good luck- you will need it.
|
|
By:
Try dealing with Cancer.........It wont seem much of a problem then.
|
|
By:
If you gonna go, go now, so your wife has a chance to meet someone else ans so your daughter can have a father full time in her life, someone she can call Daddy, and you will be the bloke who comes to pick her up once a week when she would rather be with her 'parents' or playing with her friends.
You say you love your wife, which is bollo x , you are just trying to ease you guilt and make what you are doing acceptable. If you dont love her, fair enuff, you cant force love. Then you have to decide the trade off between your daughter and a new life. You cant have it all, your wife and you, in the first year of a new baby, have gone throught a big transition, I have been there, and felt just the same. But I cant tell you how much joy I get each day, after a bad day at work, seeing my little girl running down the hall screming with Joy, ''Daaadddyyy". Life is never perfect all the time, but if you get a little bit every now and then, you are doing better than most. If you think this new women you have just met will ever give you that feeling, then she must be quite something..... To be honest, unless you wife is a complete nightmare, and you have not suggested she is, then, you are being a bit of an ar sehole to be honest..... Relationships go up and down all the time, but time makes them stronger. But if everytime you hit a low you jump into bed with someone else, then you are better off going now, and give your wife and daughter a hot at long term happiness. Be honest with yourself, if you cant stick with it, then go....... but dont cry about the consequences........ |
|
By:
Albi Back, good stuff.
|
|
By:
you will also have to accept that for the next 15 or sao years your wife will probably systematically brainwash your daughter to the point she will probably despise you as well. if you do leave, make sure you get some legal advice first and nail down as much regular and frequent contact as you can and stick to it
|
|
By:
some very goods posts from lippy and Albi
|