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Anyone ever been involved in a situation where for many years they have been secretly seen another woman behind theres wifes back for days out , fancy meals , long phone calls etc but the intimacy has never got beyond the occasional awkward hug at the end of the evening - does this count as an affair ?
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wires I think you mean seeing a friend of the opposite sex.
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I know - but in secret because the wife would hit the roof ...
Women don`t tend to understand this friends of the `opposite sex ` especailly wives contrary to myth - hence the secrecy . Do other chit-chatters have women friends who their wives feel comfortable about their husbands seen on a regular basis( not work related) ? |
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hrh
it is incredibly difficult. and there is so much more to the story. but i am strong. i know what im fighting for is right and true and that helps. i dont think ill stop the kids moving. it is 50/50 i reckon and i think if i do stop her she will just appeal it and continue the fight. and that is no good for the kids, i can maybe stop her for another 6 months with appeals etc but where does that leave them? so ill drop it and support them. important for them to know i am supportive and that they can talk to me , it wont be easy for them being in a new place and they dont understand. i need them to be able to open up to me about it all. they then can ask em to come back if thats what they want. they will eventually. its so complex and i am easy going and have incredible insight. i know this move will hurt them and it is open to failure in so many ways. or i would have accepted it and tried to be positive and prevent the pain and cost of the courts now. maybe i can stop her with the catholic thing , surely thats not gonna work out. i am not anti christian but my kids certainly arent brainwashed and wont last 5 minutes in a convent fecking school. so thats not in their best interests. but she has school , doctor , house , job etc etc all lined up. as far as the court system goes i am a man, i am not a parent. i do not have equal rights regardless of the sh1te they promote. i have 100% the kids best interests at heart. i am only a ** in there , because i am male i am automatically unfit to be a parent. so ill wait and try again in march , likely that will fail like everything else in the court. then i will have to be all happy and positive for the kids watching my little angels be ripped from me with little or no thought or care for our relationship. but they will come back , of that i am certain |
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stevie
Sadly, you seem to know the score and it certainly isn't a level playing field! I won't even offer advice on the bleedin' obvious as you come across as an informed bloke and a decent man and father. I wish you well and hope your longterm relationship with your kids stays as strong as you deserve, even if it ends up at a distance. |
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happens a lot to couples who buy a waterbed
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The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence...........except when you get there and you realise you need to maintain the F**king stuff. :^0 stick with the wife imho. You wont regret it.
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oh hang on youre divorced lol
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thanks hrh.
happens more and more often these days. ill never walk away from them and i know they will be back, maybe take months, years , many of them. life goes on too. |
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best of luck Steve and Nomadic Way.
BestrRevenge is to live a good and happy life. |
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stevie
just read your post(s), all the very best to you mate, one day the clouds will lift, never underestimate kids, they can pick up if a parent is being a bit to one sided, keep being a dad as best you can, you will always be their dad no matter what, one day they will be old enough to make their own judgements..all the best |
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stevie_p 15 Jan 23:12
as far as the court system goes i am a man, i am not a parent. i do not have equal rights regardless of the sh1te they promote. i have 100% the kids best interests at heart. i am only a ****** in there , because i am male i am automatically unfit to be a parent. That's something that's got to change, the idea that men are less than human. In most cases, we are seen as sperm donors and walking wallets, objects of fun and ridicule. Just look at any tv channel or read what the ball-deficient members of parliament have to say. There is no justice for men in British courts if they are up against a female. Women don't vote for the common good, they only ever vote for their own good. They consume more than men from the welfare state yet contribute far less. Because of the brainwashing of outdated chivalry, men have been led to believe that tender feelings are from their 'feminine' side, as though loving and caring are beyond masculinity. Most divorces are initiated by females and, once divorced, most fathers are excluded from their children's lives and are then derided as deadbeat dads. Families Need Fathers works with Mothers Apart from Their Children, so don't expect much help there. Fathers 4 Justice could use your support, though. The feminazis hate them and lie about them so they must be good. Good luck. |
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Boy am i glad I didn't get married... this is exactly what I was worried about....
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I walked out on my wife and two kids. She was bitter and although she married again she made life very tough. Pre-arranged visits were cancelled at the last minute or the kids would be elsewhere when I phoned. It led to a lot of tension and rows which just upset my two girls so I just stood back and left well alone. They grow up fast and by the time they were twelve/thirteen they could arrange there own visits and we eventually built a nice life and relationship together (my current wife has been an angel.never taking sides,never interfering.) Now my daughters are in their thirties and we have a solid,proper relationship. It worked out well in the end.
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