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25 Aug 12
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Do you live in the area you know/ grew up in ?
Do you live alone out of choice /prefererence ?
Are you happy enough to stay living this way ?
Just wondering if some people over-exaggerate the single life
Do you live alone out of choice /prefererence ?
Are you happy enough to stay living this way ?
Just wondering if some people over-exaggerate the single life
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> Do you live in the area you know/ grew up in ?
no. >Do you live alone out of choice /prefererence ? see above >Are you happy enough to stay living this way ? both sides have their pro's and con's >Just wondering if some people over-exaggerate the single life nothing inherently wrong with living by yourself, maybe other than the fact it's not as environmentally friendly as sharing with other people. i imagine it comes more into play when you're older. anyways, the good thing about being with someone is sharing life experience |
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Erse2 are you in Ontario by any chance?
If so Kitchener/Waterloo is my guess.... |
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Yeah i agree erse & would like the life experience of living with somebody ..
but when you've had to struggle alone most've your life it becomes harder to meet/ trust a parnter & let them in I may be wrong but think most people (mainly women) are very selfish at times so don't have a huge trust in them tbh  Fronter you're married and live alone ? |
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Do you live in the area you know/ grew up in ?
No Do you live alone out of choice /prefererence ? Live alone mon-fri see mrs and kids at weekend,we have a gaff in the lakes where she lives works.I cant relocate. Are you happy enough to stay living this way ? You betcha,im having my cake and eating it. |
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good points and advice from erse, not to be sniffed at.
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most people cannot afford to live alone - there would be more single occupancies if it was affordable to live that way , you betcha .
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People who are married wish they were single and people who are single wish they were married.
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Have two houses imo. Two examples:
A few years ago I was seeing a girl in another town so we would always meet at the weekends. This suited me personally, much much better than living with a girl full time because I value my personal space so much. Last year and the first part of this one I had a housemate, plus a house in the city and one in the country. Works out the same as renting one each (but the country one was loads cheaper) and we could escape each other at will. Worked brilliantly. I am very unlikely to ever meet anyone I want to live with until death. That's me though, other people love the stability. You've got to pick and choose what works for you in life, I reckon. |
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 KennyYeah you reckon Coach .. ? I probably agree though couples always seem to look down & belittle you in any way possible for being alone .. though on the flip side many more successful younger singles seem to be living alone now so i guess you'e right (but not sure they're happier) I guess some couples are happy , some just put up with .. and the rest are just stuck with it for reasons you mention I think many people are just scared of being alone tbh |
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Do you live in the area you know/ grew up in ?
Yeah, but haven't always. Do you live alone out of choice /prefererence ? Initially out of circumstances following a break up, but having had to move out of 2 homes with next to nothing, it would take a leap of faith for me to live with someone again where the upshot of things going tits up would be me ending up in the same situation again! Are you happy enough to stay living this way ? It's not how I would have envisaged things ten years ago, but yes - It's good to have your own space and even if you are in a relationship it's good to maintain it if you can afford to for when you need time away from each other, and when you want to do your own thing with mates. It's great to wake up next to someone special, but there's nothing worse than waking up next to someone who is going to spend the rest of the day giving you high blood pressure! |
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moon- you're not technically alone if you have mates and a girlfriend imo
 - the plus side is you get your own space and can come and go ,laze about, a few beers in the afternoon , watch TV in week old underpants - you choose  |
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and as someone has already said, have the benefit of 2 homes if your g/f (at any time ) has a house of her own
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HRH has nailed in on the last sentence
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Yep. A very good post by HRH.
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Hey Patra ..
Yeah i kind of agree with you & themightymac I value my own space more now too as i've had to fight so hard for it (why is that -- surely it should be the other way around -- but life just hates single guys) It does get a bit lonely if you're stuck single .. but like you i find it hard to find the kind of bond that'd make me want to live with somebody long term either .. I guess i'm more comfortable alone than in a relationship but can isolate you a bit i feel (not knowing who to trust etc ..) I guess things change with age a bit too .. although most older couple i know just argue like the plague !  |
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moon -try not to stress about things too much , maybe too much time thinking ?
just enjoy the days my buddy - enjoy the countryside ,the colours, the sunshine and the rain ,a good book ,cook some nice food -- things soon fit into place then , gambling can get a bit too much if you're on here too long  |
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Cheers Coach
Yeah i agree there's a big difference between 'being alone' & 'being lonely' I 've just become so stressed out lately i guess i'm questioning myself , my morals , my ethics , my future (God!) Sure i'll perk up once i sort a new place out but once your single for a few years it starts to feel like a lifetime (though maybe i'm better off than i think) but not sure i could ever trust a relationship 100% again |
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i wouldn't worry too much about the future ,we're like snakes - we shed our skins every so often and turn over a new leaf ... in 5 years time you will forget what you were worrying about this year
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Coachbuster
moon -try not to stress about things too much , maybe too much time thinking ? just enjoy the days my buddy - enjoy the countryside ,the colours, the sunshine and the rain ,a good book ,cook some nice food -- things soon fit into place then , gambling can get a bit too much if you're on here too long Cheers Coach I hadn't seen your last reply when i posted .. i guess you can read my Puzzled mind .. but has made my day Thanks my friend |
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lol very true .. but i wish .. i've spent most my life constantly worrying & can't seem to get out of the pattern .. made money & still worry every week for more .. then worry about that week i've just wasted
 i just think some people (couples in particular) have it so easy ! |
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i guess it's all about getting that healthy balance moon
being single in some case can knock confidence - maybe get out with a few old mates and have a good laugh ,but look at the positives- the being single has allowed you to make a living doing something you're good at and like - could be a lot worse |
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i live along. I moved to other part of city to be closer to my son (Me and the ex split up)
i work full time and life a drink. Decided to cut down to just once a week and i feel so much better for it love my single life and doing what i want but i will admit i am mad about this girl i met 4 years ago. A long story but going to meet her next weekend |
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I agree with coach, enjoy life mate and don`t let busybody friends and relatives belittle you and pressurise you into marrying or living with someone just to conform. Single people definitely feel uncomfortable at times, particularly at family functions, i.e. Weddings, Parties etc but follow your own feelings mate. My nephew, who is single, feels anxious at family "doos" when the women gang up on him and ask, "Is it not about time you were married". I just wish people would leave others to make their own decisions in life. Take each day as it comes and enjoy life.
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>Erse2 are you in Ontario by any chance?
No, when I visited your blog that's why my IP address said ;o) I wasn't at home at the time. I live next to Lake Huron... I think we spoke about this before, as you said you were nearby Barrie. |
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Good luck Kal on the new romance.
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Just be yourself McMoonbeam and stop worrying so much mate.
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Cheers Mac
Yeah it is always friends / busybody relatives etc that feel like they belittle you & i also hate family doo's /weddings etc . i've missed lots of them then people think you're unsociable .. it's like being sinle is only temporary & your a loser for being alone .. but some people are just better off being left alone i feel .. and it's these kind of people that stress me out so much . Yeah life could be worse Coach i agree .. just feel i've got my own life to live now .. my own way to go .. but takes time to figure that out i guess |
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cheers mac
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erse2
26 Aug 12 00:57 Joined: 29 Aug 11 | Topic/replies: 1,596 | Blogger: erse2's blog >Erse2 are you in Ontario by any chance? No, when I visited your blog that's why my IP address said ;o) I wasn't at home at the time. I live next to Lake Huron... I think we spoke about this before, as you said you were nearby Barrie. Penetanguishene Erse...the place to be if you're old or a drunk or mentally insane...and I'm none of those |
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i'm in southampton, about 2 hours away. full of old farts but decent area. it's too hot here in summer, my balls have been sweaty for weeks.
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My girlfriend for the past 20 years stays with me Thursday, Saturday and Sunday nights. Works well for us.
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erse2
26 Aug 12 01:43 Joined: 29 Aug 11 | Topic/replies: 1,597 | Blogger: erse2's blog i'm in southampton, about 2 hours away. full of old farts but decent area. it's too hot here in summer, my balls have been sweaty for weeks.  hence the username on the blog. |
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Thinly disguised return to the thinly discuised threads of old. Thinly disguised bummer's qeuation.
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People of working age who live alone are significantly more likely to be depressed, a study has shown.
They are 80 per cent more likely to be taking antidepressants than people in any kind of social or family group, scientists found. Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2119097/Workers-live-80-likely-depressed.html#ixzz24eOJpAqg |
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I'm living with a woman (i think it is) now but i had long spells of living alone, and frankly i don't know which one is really better, there are pros and cons on both sides. Don't worry too much about it, McMB, there is a proverb in my country that say : "Better be alone than in bad company"
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moonbeam, ever took a personality test? no matter how many i take, i always score very similarly. one test is the myers-briggs personality type. I'm an INTJ or very, very occassionally and ENTJ.
www.personalitypage.com/INTJ.html en.wikipedia.org/wiki/INTJ I – Introversion preferred to extraversion: INTJs tend to be quiet and reserved. They generally prefer interacting with a few close friends rather than a wide circle of acquaintances, and they expend energy in social situations (whereas extraverts gain energy).[8] N – Intuition preferred to sensing: INTJs tend to be more abstract than concrete. They focus their attention on the big picture rather than the details and on future possibilities rather than immediate realities.[9] T – Thinking preferred to feeling: INTJs tend to value objective criteria above personal preference. When making decisions they generally give more weight to logic than to social considerations.[10] J – Judgment preferred to perception: INTJs tend to plan their activities and make decisions early. They derive a sense of control through predictability, which to perceptive types may seem limiting.[11] Maybe there's some constructive criticism to take on board in the first link. |
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that's a good proverb abolo
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Is that lika Hutu in a crowd of Tutsis.
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