How many of you guys live alone ?

> Do you live in the area you know/ grew up in ?
no.

>Do you live alone out of choice /prefererence ?
see above

>Are you happy enough to stay living this way ?
both sides have their pro's and con's

>Just wondering if some people over-exaggerate the single life
nothing inherently wrong with living by yourself, maybe other than the fact it's not as environmentally friendly as sharing with other people.

i imagine it comes more into play when you're older.

anyways, the good thing about being with someone is sharing life experience

Yes
No married
Yes
Don't know

Erse2 are you in Ontario by any chance?

If so Kitchener/Waterloo is my guess....

Yeah i agree erse & would like the life experience of living with somebody ..

but when you've had to struggle alone most've your life it becomes harder to meet/ trust a parnter & let them in

I may be wrong but think most people (mainly women) are very selfish at times so don't have a huge trust in them tbh


Fronter you're married and live alone ?

Do you live in the area you know/ grew up in ?
No
Do you live alone out of choice /prefererence ?
Live alone mon-fri see mrs and kids at weekend,we have a gaff in the lakes where she lives  works.I cant relocate.
Are you happy enough to stay living this way ?
You betcha,im having my cake and eating it.

good points and advice from erse, not to be sniffed at.

most people cannot afford to live alone - there would be more single occupancies if it was affordable to live that way , you betcha .

People who are married wish they were single and people who are single wish they were married.

Have two houses imo. Two examples:

A few years ago I was seeing a girl in another town so we would always meet at the weekends. This suited me personally, much much better than living with a girl full time because I value my personal space so much.

Last year and the first part of this one I had a housemate, plus a house in the city and one in the country. Works out the same as renting one each (but the country one was loads cheaper) and we could escape each other at will. Worked brilliantly.

I am very unlikely to ever meet anyone I want to live with until death. That's me though, other people love the stability. You've got to pick and choose what works for you in life, I reckon.

Kenny

Yeah you reckon Coach .. ?

I probably agree though couples always seem to look down & belittle you in any way possible for being alone .. though on the flip side many more successful younger singles seem to be living alone now so i guess you'e right (but not sure they're happier)

I guess some couples are happy , some just put up with .. and the rest are just stuck with it for reasons you mention

I think many people are just scared of being alone tbh

Do you live in the area you know/ grew up in ?
Yeah, but haven't always.

Do you live alone out of choice /prefererence ?
Initially out of circumstances following a break up, but having had to move out of 2 homes with next to nothing, it would take a leap of faith for me to live with someone again where the upshot of things going tits up would be me ending up in the same situation again!

Are you happy enough to stay living this way ?
It's not how I would have envisaged things ten years ago, but yes - It's good to have your own space and even if you are in a relationship it's good to maintain it if you can afford to for when you need time away from each other, and when you want to do your own thing with mates. It's great to wake up next to someone special, but there's nothing worse than waking up next to someone who is going to spend the rest of the day giving you high blood pressure!

moon- you're not technically alone if you have mates and a girlfriend imo - the plus side is you get your own space and can come and go ,laze about, a few beers in the afternoon , watch TV in week old underpants - you choose

and as someone has already said, have the benefit of 2 homes if your g/f (at any time ) has a house of her own

HRH has nailed in on the last sentence

Yep. A very good post by HRH.

Hey Patra ..

Yeah i kind of agree with you & themightymac

I value my own space more now too as i've had to fight so hard for it (why is that -- surely it should be the other way around -- but life just hates single guys)

It does get a bit lonely if you're stuck single .. but like you i find it hard to find the kind of bond that'd make me want to live with somebody long term either ..

I guess i'm more comfortable alone than in a relationship but can isolate you a bit i feel (not knowing who to trust etc ..)

I guess things change with age a bit too .. although most older couple i know just argue like the plague !

moon -try not to stress about things too much ,   maybe too much time thinking ?


just enjoy the days my buddy -   enjoy the countryside ,the colours, the sunshine and the rain  ,a good book ,cook some nice food -- things soon fit into place then , gambling can get a bit too much  if you're on here too long

Cheers Coach

Yeah i agree there's a big difference between 'being alone' & 'being lonely'

I 've just become so stressed out lately i guess i'm questioning myself , my morals , my ethics , my future (God!)

Sure i'll perk up once i sort a new place out but once your single for a few years it starts to feel like a lifetime (though maybe i'm better off than i think) but not sure i could ever trust a relationship 100% again

i wouldn't worry too much about the future ,we're like snakes - we shed our skins every so often and turn over a new leaf ...  in 5 years time you will forget what you were worrying about this year

Coachbuster

moon -try not to stress about things too much ,   maybe too much time thinking ?


just enjoy the days my buddy -   enjoy the countryside ,the colours, the sunshine and the rain  ,a good book ,cook some nice food -- things soon fit into place then , gambling can get a bit too much  if you're on here too long

Cheers Coach
I hadn't seen your last reply when i posted .. i guess you can read my Puzzled mind ..  but has made my day
Thanks my friend

lol very true .. but i wish .. i've spent most my life constantly worrying & can't seem to get out of the pattern .. made money & still worry every week for more .. then worry about that week i've just wasted    i just think some people (couples in particular) have it so easy !

i guess it's all about getting that healthy balance  moon

being single in some case can knock confidence - maybe get out with a few old mates and have a good laugh ,but look at the positives-  the being single has allowed you to make a  living doing something you're good at and like - could be a lot worse

i live along. I moved to other part of city to be closer to my son (Me and the ex split up)

i work full time and life a drink. Decided to cut down to just once a week and i feel so much better for it

love my single life and doing what i want but i will admit i am mad about this girl i met 4 years ago. A long story but going to meet her next weekend

I agree with coach, enjoy life mate and don`t let busybody friends and relatives belittle you and pressurise you into marrying or living with someone just to conform. Single people definitely feel uncomfortable at times, particularly at family functions, i.e. Weddings, Parties etc but follow your own feelings mate. My nephew, who is single, feels anxious at family "doos" when the women gang up on him and ask, "Is it not about time you were married". I just wish people would leave others to make their own decisions in life. Take each day as it comes and enjoy life.

>Erse2 are you in Ontario by any chance?
No, when I visited your blog that's why my IP address said ;o) I wasn't at home at the time. I live next to Lake Huron... I think we spoke about this before, as you said you were nearby Barrie.

Good luck Kal on the new romance.

Just be yourself McMoonbeam and stop worrying so much mate.

Cheers Mac
Yeah it is always friends / busybody relatives etc that feel like they belittle you & i also hate family doo's /weddings etc . i've missed lots of them then people think you're unsociable .. it's like being sinle is only temporary & your a loser for being alone .. but some people are just better off being left alone i feel .. and it's these kind of people that stress me out so much .

Yeah life could be worse Coach i agree .. just feel i've got my own life to live now .. my own way to go .. but takes time to figure that out i guess

cheers mac

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>Erse2 are you in Ontario by any chance?
No, when I visited your blog that's why my IP address said ;o) I wasn't at home at the time. I live next to Lake Huron... I think we spoke about this before, as you said you were nearby Barrie.


Penetanguishene Erse...the place to be if you're old or a drunk or mentally insane...and I'm none of those

i'm in southampton, about 2 hours away. full of old farts but decent area. it's too hot here in summer, my balls have been sweaty for weeks.

My girlfriend for the past 20 years stays with me Thursday, Saturday and Sunday nights. Works well for us.

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i'm in southampton, about 2 hours away. full of old farts but decent area. it's too hot here in summer, my balls have been sweaty for weeks.



hence the username on the blog.

Thinly disguised return to the thinly discuised threads of old. Thinly disguised bummer's qeuation.

People of working age who live alone are significantly more likely to be depressed, a study has shown.

They are 80 per cent more likely to be taking antidepressants than people in any kind of social or family group, scientists found.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2119097/Workers-live-80-likely-dep...

I'm living with a woman (i think it is) now but i had long spells of living alone, and frankly i don't know which one is really better, there are pros and cons on both sides. Don't worry too much about it, McMB, there is a proverb in my country that say : "Better be alone than in bad company"

moonbeam, ever took a personality test? no matter how many i take, i always score very similarly. one test is the myers-briggs personality type. I'm an INTJ or very, very occassionally and ENTJ.

www.personalitypage.com/INTJ.html
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/INTJ

    I – Introversion preferred to extraversion: INTJs tend to be quiet and reserved. They generally prefer interacting with a few close friends rather than a wide circle of acquaintances, and they expend energy in social situations (whereas extraverts gain energy).[8]
    N – Intuition preferred to sensing: INTJs tend to be more abstract than concrete. They focus their attention on the big picture rather than the details and on future possibilities rather than immediate realities.[9]
    T – Thinking preferred to feeling: INTJs tend to value objective criteria above personal preference. When making decisions they generally give more weight to logic than to social considerations.[10]
    J – Judgment preferred to perception: INTJs tend to plan their activities and make decisions early. They derive a sense of control through predictability, which to perceptive types may seem limiting.[11]


Maybe there's some constructive criticism to take on board in the first link.

that's a good proverb abolo

Is that lika Hutu in a crowd of Tutsis.

This thread is not doing a great deal in dispelling the commonly held "Chit Chat default" status ie A single man living alone,no sex life except the odd brass,heavy drinker,depressed,lonely,potless and living on a mix of pot noodles and baked beans!

Yeah i like it abolo
I used to think the same myself when i tried to distance myself from my not so good friends in my early 20's .. i've done better for myself since i cut them loose but now i'm not so sure

No i haven't erse .. thanks i will take it now

nothing wrong with baked beans

my other half is away for the weekend and i was pretty hungry by 10PM, so I had a plate of beans, if that helps.

I also took the outdoor ashtray into the house so I could smoke without getting up.

"LIGHTHOUSE KEEPER"......................wot a fantastic job that used to be........................

I fear this plate of beans is announcing new anal related threads

I can't seem to take the test for free erse ?

I did the brain test one (though very basic stuff that i already know is unhealthy)and again asks for email etc at the end of it

Real pro's have a bit of cheese on their beans

I have beans on my brass

moonbeam,
http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp
the links i gave earlier give good descriptions about each type.

i took the test just now and was INTJ, again. I suspect that's what you'll get.

and just for reference, typelogic.com is a good reference. It will also offer career choices and other guesses about what's suited for you. Coincidentally it recommends IT for me, which is the industry I'm in.

Do you live in the area you know/ grew up in ?    Yes
Do you live alone out of choice /prefererence ?   Yes
Are you happy enough to stay living this way ?    Yes

Thanks buddy

Your Type


INFJ

Introvert(44%)  iNtuitive(25%)  iNtuitive  Feeling(25%)  Judging(1%)
•You have moderate preference of Introversion over Extraversion (44%)
•You have moderate preference of Intuition over Sensing (25%)
•You have moderate preference of Feeling over Thinking (25%)
•You have marginal or no preference of Judging over Perceiving (1%)

Quite similar but i must let my feelings get in way of judgement right now

though i think that would change a bit once out of my current situation

I actually percieve things quite well but must have the feel of something to matter to me .. and do trust my intuition quite strongly

a good solid test though !

INFJs are effective in occupations involving substantial intellectual work, caring for other people, and requiring creativity. INFJs build successful careers in a broad range of organizations. Social and community care services, counseling, teachers of humanities and social sciences, healthcare workers (both in administration and in medical services), various service-oriented professions as well as religious services and social movements are just some of the examples of occupations favourable to INFJs. Quite often they are found in mid-rank management positions. For some of them occupations in sciences or academia are also favourable.

Social worker

sounds like a plan, worry about everyone else's **** instead of making your own ;)

lol you could be right

outside ashtray -next door neighbours jacuzzi

abolo        
I'm living with a woman (i think it is) now but i had long spells of living alone, and frankly i don't know which one is really better, there are pros and cons on both sides.

WTF ????

Yes
N/A though have lived alone in the past
Would like to go back to it tbh

Love playing the field.

I would love to live alone.

oh dear

" WTF ???? "


Just joking, she's a bit on the heavy side but it's ok i like it

Is you girlfriend one of the missing female forumites, Annie or Ladycakes ?

I don't know them but Ladycakes is a name which would suit her

exceedingly good, abolo

iv lived on my own for 2 years and the longer i do ,the more i like it!i do what i want when i want and i dont have to put up with anyones moods.I seem to be able to get female company when i fancy it without having to go into a serious relationship.Ithink that there are alot of women with the same phlosophy! Sometimes i do miss having a woman around but you cant have it all ways!

Who on earth does your washing, cleaning and shopping?

This thread just confirms that famous book title : Men Are From Mars, (most) Women Are From Hades

tbh i love doing my own shopping buying exactly what i want to eat for when i want to eat it
Washing's not too bad i only have to switch the washing machine on like once a fortnight & Cleaning .... gets done .... Gradually !!

Women just make a big deal out of it all to make them seem more important .

It's great to make a meal for someone who appreciates it, and fantastic to live with a woman who can cook. The flip side is when they spend hours preparing something that you wouldn't feed to a starving, rabid dog, so to avoid hurting their feelings you have to subtly distract them so you can hide spoonfuls of casserole under house plants and in draws, yet when they eventually find it, do they appreciate your consideration? Do they bollocks. Women - You can't live with e'm, and you can't live with e'm.

HRH
Yep sometimes i would love a nice sunday roast cooking for me with all the trimmings instead of a a pie or a sandwich .. but i also love a nice big fry up at 3 in the morning without being moaned at ..

I first lived on my own in 1998. Apart from six months with a mate and six weeks with a bint, I've been on my own ever since. And do you know what? I fúcking love it.

I can do what I want, when I want. No one telling me what to watch on TV, or nagging me for having a load of ales, or annoying me by spending ages in the bathroom, or moaning that I want to go the football. And if I want company, I've got my dog. Springer spaniels are less hairy and smelly than most of the bints who I've been unfortunate enough to

There are a few drawbacks, of course. Although 99% of women are snakes with títs, it'd be great to find one of the 1% of birds who are worth spending time with. I'm not a great cook, so having a decent meal cooked for me occasionally would be nice.

However, looking at the pros and cons, I can honestly say that I would sooner go to a pool party round Michael Barrymore's house than live with someone.

*Springer spaniels are less hairy and smelly than most of the bints who I've been unfortunate enough to be with.

I can see the plus in that, not many birds would lick gravy off your kn@ckers

Buton has never been to Yorkshire

Spent the last 2 years on my own and while it ha sit's benefits the fact that I also work for myself means I have a lot of isolation. I have been feeling depressed recently when an offer came for me to do some work in Edinburgh during the festival, anyway I had 6 great days and I have come back refreshed and ready to try to change my life around.

Hey Steamship, how's it going?

I live alone but I do not always sleep alone.

I live in an area I know but I did not grow up here.

I live alone because that's how the dice rolled.

I am happy enough in my lifestyle because I know the difference between solitude and loneliness.

I'm knocking on 40 and I don't know one man older than me who recommends marriage. Not one.

Gallivanter, ^^^^ that post speaks volumes.

Hi Crags, I knew when I first looked at this thread that I had posted on it. Well quite a lot has happened since that post.
In 2015 I moved back in with my mom the house I was renting came with the job I was doing and I decided to call it a day on that job( I was being ripped off.)It works ok as mom has been struggling and I did not know how much until I moved back.

I bought a retired racehorse in fact I agreed to having her just before she won at 100/1. I worked in Edinburgh again in 2014 and will be there again in 3 weeks time just visiting this time.
I have 3 jobs now and they are all going well, daughter travelled the world and is now living in Leeds and doing well.

I'm probably happier now than I have been for 10 years though things are not easy. She would have to be very special for me to get back into a serious relationship again, I don't think I'm very good at them.

Thanks for asking Crags hope life is good with all who posted on here.

TAKE A LOOK AT SOME OF THE POSTS COUNTS OF SOME OF THE POSTERS ON THE TENNIS FORUM

I'M TALKING ABOUT, 100,00+ 130,000+ AND EVEN 300,000+ FFS

PRETTY SURE THEY LIVE ALONE, I LIVE WITH A BEAUTIFUL WOMEN, AND SO DO MANY OF YOU, DIFFERENCE BEING, YOUR WOMEN OCCASIONALLY DEFLATES WHEN YOU PRESS AGAINST HER TO HARD

Thinly veiled "I've got the upmarket unburstable version" from acqui.
What you doin posting? Thought you'd a fight to go to?

Jul 27, 2016 -- 10:46PM, Steamship wrote:

Hi Crags, I knew when I first looked at this thread that I had posted on it. Well quite a lot has happened since that post.In 2015 I moved back in with my mom the house I was renting came with the job I was doing and I decided to call it a day on that job( I was being ripped off.)It works ok as mom has been struggling and I did not know how much until I moved back.I bought a retired racehorse in fact I agreed to having her just before she won at 100/1. I worked in Edinburgh again in 2014 and will be there again in 3 weeks time just visiting this time. I have 3 jobs now and they are all going well, daughter travelled the world and is now living in Leeds and doing well.I'm probably happier now than I have been for 10 years though things are not easy. She would have to be very special for me to get back into a serious relationship again, I don't think I'm very good at them.Thanks for asking Crags hope life is good with all who posted on here.

Good to hear that things have turned out well for you, Steamship, it really is.

And I also hope that life is good for others who posted on here.

Chit Chat can be quite uplifting at times.

annie stirs me too

If annie really is the person that is portrayed on here, she would get it in every orifice from me.

Not very likely though.