Anyone on here over 40 and not a Dad?

If your name is anything to go by then i'm not surprised!

I'm 37 and definitely won't be having any. I've never wanted any nor would I in the future.

Mick Jagger having another at 72

Going by the name of the op.   Did you not have much success in trying to impregnate yourself?

Lot of people having them into their 40s these days ,dont think its the greatest Idea tbh

I'm 40 and don't have any kids. I'm thinking of getting a vasectomy to make absolutely sure.

It's a bit of a dilemma because I'm comparing two very small numbers: Chance of accidentally impregnating someone despite being relatively careful * not being able to persuade her to have an abortion vs. Chance of suddenly wanting a child despite the fact that the idea currently fills me with horror and I've never wanted one at any point in my life to date.

Then I need to weight the two numbers by comparing how horrible it would be to find out now that I was going to be a father (Jesus that would be extremely horrible) vs. how horrible it would be to want a child and not be able to have one because I'd put myself under the knife of my own free will (Jesus I guess that would be extremely horrible too).

Then I start thinking about scalpels and just put the decision off.

I think you will find that my good friend, Makybe Diva, is over 40 and not a dad!

Plenty of time if you've a 21 year old Thai Bride

About 5% of men who think they're a Dad ain't the Daddy.

I've no kids and i'm over 50.I want that to change though but I need to find "The Woman".

49, no kids, coaxed my first wife not to have any as I really didn't want them. Have now inherited the two best stepsons in the world and it has made me think maybe I was wrong. Happy with my lot though.

I also wouldn't mind inheriting children either.Its taken many years but i feel that i now know and understand myself and that understanding tells me that I would be a very good father.

55 and no offspring that I'm aware of and no regrets whatsoever.

I've 2 kids and a stepson and I wouldn't change them for the World but would you really want to bring a kid onto the planet with the state it's in? I'm a big advocate of humans are the problem and population is ruining it.

^ If you had 2 kids it would make no difference to the planet.....but if you don't then you are possibly ending the future lives of 100s or 1000s of your descendants ....could go to a sperm bank if you do not fancy finding the right woman. (I am assuming your partner does not want or cannot have any more children)

Patra : have some kids, your whole life changes for the better....your life then seems to have more purpose and you feel much more grounded.

Culvin : you need to get a job first.....how's that going?

WHP....not too late....but your fertility levels are lowering as we type !

johnn : go for it !

KKD : who's going to look after you when you are old and frail?

My life is not plain sailing.....bringing up kids well is not easy....but it is interesting.

Howe many you got Leopard and do you claim all the entitled benefits?

How*

2 ...1 girl , 1 boy....benefits?....what are they?

Benefits are this thing you used to get easy but now it's getting bloody hard

A friend of mine married a much younger woman when in his fifties, his second wife.
He's now dying of cancer and their kids haven't left school yet
Have your kids while you are young enough to see them fly the nest.

She can look after them.....hopefully.

Oh she will Leopard but it's a difficult time for them. Kids can lose their dad at any age I know but it's more likely when he's over seventy than when he's forty.

The Leopard."You need to get a job first".Yes i agree with you 100%.I feel confident that i will find something very soon.

Kids give you a direction or fill a gap, without them you will do want you want.

Not sure which is the best path, skint punters would wish on marriage, winnings punters would long to be single.

Despite the struggles I wouldn't change it. Parenthood is not for everyone though.

But you wont ever find a parent saying it was horrid, carnage.

Ibrahima Sonko 17 Jul 16 21:33 Joined: 03 Jun 07 | Topic/replies: 62,661 | Blogger: Ibrahima Sonko's blog
But you wont ever find a parent saying it was horrid, carnage.

Not out loud

52 o kids wifey never wanted them either
got a cat FFS that's enough to deal with

Feel sorry for m8 at work. 48 got 2, and twins on way
one disabled never gets out.

I love my kids with a passion.

Without her knowing my daughter is sitting opposite me talking to me to her mates on Facetime or whatever while I'm here on Chit Chat and Youtube. It's a different way to love kids nowadays but she knows and I know.

I wouldn't change it, ever. My beautiful daughter who I protected and nourished as a child has become a beautiful woman and graduated last week. She makes me proud to be alive but so does me Son and Stepson.

was going to write something similar Ovalman but think you've summed it up nicely. it's a cliche, but it's the best thing you could ever do if you get the chance.

You understand doant that any parent wouldn't. You'd rip you own heart out to give blood to your children.

Leopard put a link to the Olympics that I'd love to watch but my daughter is now playing XBox because she has me wrapped around her finger. She's 21 FFS but she wins every time.

Respects my no's when they come but they are rarer than a hens tooth atm.

mine's only six Ovalman. Drove miles to a beach in West Sussex today just me and her for the day. The look on her face as she splashed in the surf was priceless. Better than any gambling sht.

I'm 48 but they are my reason to live.

I love talking football with my stepson who knows better than me. Liverpool shiite and a tattoo to prove. His Grandad live's there but it's foreign football to me.

My daughter, the graduate who is now a qualified teacher. I wish she'd teach me lol

And my youngest who teaches me to program miserably, I wish I could party like him as he's with a different bird every week.

I said above why would anyone want a kid but I've just gave 3 reasons to counteract it.

TT and Sparky have never had children. This may be because they are both male, mind

I've made myself laugh there

Do you have any kids, crags?

Getting all soppy in here , any handkerchiefs

We have had a discussion about my son going to Glasto, last year I think it was, Leopard.

1.01 landed TheChaser. still made me laugh though.

I don't remember that, crags....maybe someone else?

Ovalman. 17 Jul 16 23:02 Joined: 29 Nov 02 | Topic/replies: 13,608 | Blogger: Ovalman.'s blog
I'm 48 but they are my reason to live.

I love talking football with my stepson who knows better than me. Liverpool shiite and a tattoo to prove. His Grandad live's there but it's foreign football to me.

My daughter, the graduate who is now a qualified teacher. I wish she'd teach me lol

And my youngest who teaches me to program miserably, I wish I could party like him as he's with a different bird every week.

I said above why would anyone want a kid but I've just gave 3 reasons to counteract it.


What she teach , qualified at 21 ffs no wonder the kids learn nothing these days

Jul 17, 2016 -- 11:09PM, The Leopard wrote:

I don't remember that, crags....maybe someone else?

No, it was you. I remember you asking stuff like how old I was when he was born. You were trying to suss my age you nosy old **** 

I did tell a porky, she graduated in Music that allows her to teach but maybe not as a fully qualified teacher. Still proud of her and james nesbitt told a joke or 2 at the graduation.

Sometimes I think my memory is going....but it may be your memory that is going

The thread will still be there

Same age as you 42 just had second. Oldest only 4.

As far as I'm concerned, I discharged my duty to the next generation when I blundered through a year trying to teach English in a school abroad.

Of the two women I've lived with, the first did want children, but not with me thank you very much, while the other one simply detested the little scrotes and couldn't see why anyone would voluntarily muck up their life by acquiring one.

I was fortunate enough to buy a yearling a few years back who won a few races. Maybe some men are blessed with inspirational children and others with a winning racehorse. On the whole I reckon I still would have taken the latter if I'd been offered the choice.

Everyone is different. It makes the world a more interesting pace.

Jul 17, 2016 -- 11:44PM, Money Tree cost me thousands!! wrote:

Everyone is different. It makes the world a more interesting pace.

Yes, but some are just that little bit more 'different' than others aren't they Tree

Feel sorry for m8 at work. 48 got 2, and twins on way
one disabled never gets out.


tell your friend to seek help
lot of good people out there
mot the end of the world

two boys,oldest just finished his gcses and has just got his first part time job which he absolutely loves,couldnt be a prouder dad,i remember my youngest getting school footballer of the year in their final year,i was sat in the front row and it took everything i had too not burst out crying when he got the award,one of many absolutely golden moments both of them have provided that i wouldnt swap for all the money in the world,kids are simply the finest blessing a man could wish for imo.

and its not the awards etc that make it everything it is to be a dad,my oldest was on his way to a prom party the other day,we picked up his mate on the way,conversation goes along the way,"are you having a beer tonight?",to which his mate replies "no not tonight,my mums skint",to which my boy replies "thats ok you can share mine",to hear that and see the person he is....

yeh sure im an awful dad for buying my 16 year old boy 6 beers to go to a party...

16 and buying him beers it will be drugs next , people have no shame these days

Im 46,no kids, had 2 dna tests though and glad in a way they weren't mine,have lots of nephews and neices though and im the godfather to 4 kids so they bring lots of joy,bring them to park,diner,cinema etc and can give them back after a few hours.splendid.

Capt F
As you can tell i'm seeing it from the point of view
of someone who does not have kids.

He does get out to the zoo as his daughter loves it
and he seems happy

Im 44 and have a child, thogh me and her Mum are separated. The hing is until you actually have a child it is very difficult etc understand what you are missing out on.

Jul 18, 2016 -- 12:12PM, MC560 dn wrote:

Im 44 and have a child, thogh me and her Mum are separated. The hing is until you actually have a child it is very difficult etc understand what you are missing out on.

Im 44 and have a child, though me and her Mum are separated. The thing is until you actually have a child it is very difficult to understand what you are missing out on.

The idea of going in and seeing your child peacefully asleep just sounded boring before I had a child yet now it is one of my pleasures in life

Seeing your child win a race at sports day give incredible pride

The though of someone bullying your chikld is genuinely upsetting

The though of what happened to poor James Bulger was something you thought was bad pre child but didnt get to you, yet when you have one it just makes you feel sick to the stomach if you thought it about yours

Having a child makes you want to be a better person, it makes you feel you have a significant role in life, you really are this persons guide in life and they have total trust and belief in you which over the years you feel you dont have anywhere pre children. They give you unconditional love.

However your life as you knew it is over, you lose a lot of independence, a lot of sleep initially, you lose a lot of disposable income, and it is relentless.

Overall though if you have the chance to experience it you should, it will provide you comfort (and worry!) for the rest of your life.

If you think you arent ready for it, trust me you are, because no-one is ready for it, yet you just get through it and you adapt.

You'll be "greened out" on every emotional level you could imagine, and surely life is about FEELING emotion.

It's a rollercoaster no mistake, but if you have the opportunity to then it is my view is you should and you will look back on the life you lead now and realise there was so much missing.

The purity of a young child is a great thing to witness.
The simplest activities bring great joy to them and just being there and involved is priceless.
We have just been to look for baby fish as the Thames is clear in the sun.

Good post.....the most important thing is to pick a woman who is sane and a nice person as you could be tied together for 20 years or more because of any children.

^ MC560....oc

MT....yours was good also.

It was great fun leopard.
A small pic nic to eat and an adventure by the river.

thought patra the cat was female

It's not too late if you're in a relationship and the other half wants one too.  42 is late for a woman though so if you are not in a relationship you better hurry up.

I've got 4 kids, the oldest is 19 and the youngest is 10.  The important thing is they are all healthy and happy which I think they are. Tbh I only wanted 2 kids as I thought I couldn't cope with more, and if it wasn't for my incredible wife I doubt I would.  They've bought me many moments of pride and joy, but it's also relentless as the above poster says.  I'm lucky though, that they have such a good mother and me a good wife.  The pressure of children can often lead to divorce and when there are kids involved, it's the man that gets screwed, as I've witnessed with a couple of friends.

56 years old and no kids. the sperm bank sounds a good idea, so I have just taken the tissue out of the bin and stuck it in the freezer.

Life is insane - one minute they are covering
a mass killing in NICE and then they go cover
a golf tournament.
I wouldn't want my future chipped family with
their apple pay tattoos to face what's coming.
I'm hoping I can dodge what's coming.
Bringing up your sons and daughters in the
future world with increasing vaccinations and
new pandemic threats sounds just dreamy.
Tv is getting worse too. So it's all hitting the
fan.I leave the earth to the capable hands of
the towie generation.

Having kids is a gigantic risk, though, isn't it. My life experience has taught me that some people are happy and some aren't, and parents only have so much control over the situation. Good parenting can only get you so far; what happens if you have a fatal heart attack on your kid's fifth birthday, or your child is genetically prone to depression, or the world is about to enter a decade of economic depression followed by war?

I gamble with money, not babies.

Your genes (ref: the selfish gene) are programmed to send copies forward....if you fight that then you may get problems.

You can also promote your genes by supporting your brothers and sisters and nephews and nieces who have 25% of the same genes as you.

Correction : Brothers and Sisters has 50% or more the same genes

ephews and nieces who have 25% or more

N

Nephews and nieces have 25% or more

That's better

My friends at school was a grade a student. Passed all gcses.
Went to local grammar school 6th form and found dope.
He has achieved nothing and caused great stress for his family.
His two brothers are the opposite. Very successful and done well.
The grief he caused was immense but they do all they can as he is their flesh and blood.

I'm 40 years old & took me 3 years to find the correct bin liners to fit my bin

Kids .. No I'd rather just sleep on the idea !

You'd need to start sleeping with women, tbf

I feel ancient! Thanks the Lord for Aunty and Foinavon on here.

passing your genes on?

a meteor scrapes life off the planet every
every 65 million years. Your genes are irrelevant.

one is due - it's overdue.

we aren't going into space like star trek.
there's not enough energy to propel us very
far.

What do you think the nukes are for.....to take out the meteor !

gas meteors are the dangerous ones  ,they weigh a ton