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My dad has Dementia
My dad has Dementia
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Tragic ,a close Friend of mines father was a sufferer it tore my friend apart to watch his father suffer, his father was only
in his 60s when it set in, even after his father passed away My friend was tortured by what had happened to his Dad ,sadly he himself suffered heart failure aged 38, left behind a beautiful wife and 4 lovely children ,I honestly Believe it was the stress of watching his father over the years that caused his own death I think it broke his heart ,he was a full of Life Character and is missed by Many .. Although Not the same My Father suffered a massive Stroke 18 months Back ,he remained conscious and suffered a series of other strokes over the next 5 weeks ,at times he appeared to recognise us ,most of the time he didn't even know who he was himself .. Watched him get worse over the 5 week period Thankfully he passed away ,he had been a fit and agile man it would have been cruel for all had he survived.. Imo something needs to be done ,once total quality of Life has been lost ,people who end up in these dreadful Conditions would not want to be a burden on the people they Love ... |
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Dignity is everything.
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The saddest thing I have ever seen was the sight of an elderly woman having to be constantly reminded that she was at her husband's funeral.
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I agree with Facts 100% When dignity goes it's just heartbreaking.
So sorry to read about your Dad The Dragon and similar tales from others. My Dad died at 59 after working all his life busting his balls to provide for Mum, 6 children any many other members of his family. He then got diagnosed with mesothelioa and went from an 18 stone bear to an empty shell who was begging at the end to be euthanised. It was just so desperately sad and unjust. |
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So very sorry to read this.
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sorry to hear that slippy as forest said life is like a bx of choclates you never know what you are going to get
health is everything |
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very sorry to hear dragon and hope he is in a decent home , this government don't give a flying fook about anyone unless you are rich or in the "circle", and the nhs and pensioners will be firmly in their sights if they win the next election
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Dreadful Slippy,not sure if you knew Grant slippy, regular Don Goer, that's the person I'm referring to regarding His father..
Absolutely tragic outcome I am convinced what he went through with his father took its toll on him he would visit his father nearly every day even though his dad didn't know who he was, went on for a couple of years ... |
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He is now in the Same Grave ...
Dreadful the effect Illness can have on the friends and family of there Loved ones ... |
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horrible cruel disease for everyone,and i agree dragon,enjoy life while you can!!
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Agreed that it is very important to appreciate life even with its challenges. Because soon enough it will be all over.
But also not to worry too much about death, it is just the cycle of life. |
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I would advise visiting anyone you care for in a care home.I have noticed that people who get visits seem to be better dressed and kept smarter.Also because you are paying above average does not mean your care will be above average.I feel for all the poor victims of dementia.
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I'm sorry to read this about your Dad.
My thoughts (and prayers) are with him and your family. |
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My thoughts are with you Dragon..
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I was in hospital next to someone with brain damage once. I'd never seen such a pathetic excuse for a human being. Then his friends popped by - some of them with problems of their own - and I saw the joy they got out of seeing him/ the human element. Changed my outlook a little bit. Still think it's a fate worse than death though (to be without your wits that is).
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just posted this on the pub thread
www.maxsportschannels.com/horse-racing/owner-breeder-fipke-pledges-9-1m-to-alzheimers-research/#.VDCIFmddXVo |
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Add me to this list.
My precious mum is 92.5 and cannot be left alone for a moment. My brother (single and retired psychiatrist) stays with her 3 weeks of 4 - I give him a break every fourth week. FORTUNATELY Mum is still able to take care of her own toileting and dressing needs but anything else is beyond her. eg when she wants the toilet she may well go to the dining room or back-door in error etc. I have found her in the (unused) front room unable to find her way back out of it.. in the dining room stuck behind the table and lost etc. The stories I could tell are very numerous and can be quite unpleasant.. for example things she says not realising she's speaking aloud and in company. She's also blind and 'hard-of-hearing'. She talks all night long or operates her talking clock - sometimes every few minutes. I don't get a full night sleep ever in those weeks. I come home totally drained, frustrated, exasperated and exhausted and worst of all.. DREADING having to go again in a few weeks time ; which in turn makes me ashamed of myself! It's grim :( |
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If ever anyone needs a reality check about the annoying trivial things in their lives then reading this thread and stories like Ivor's Mum certainly does the trick. I actually started welling up there Ivor.
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 I could relate a lot more examples - but not sure they are required.Thanks SlippyBlue - you are an empathetic and kindly person. |
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The daily moans and groans we all have pale into insignificance after reading this....
I hope those who are affected can find the strength to cope.................  |
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I'm a lucky man by the looks of things, nobody in our family had it.
My paternal grandparents were 65 and 81 when they died, Mrs CMATs grandparents were 81, 82 and 92 when they died. My dad was 55, almost 56, died the same year as my grandad (1977). All mentally competent. Commiserations to those whose families have members that are suffering because of it. |
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My mum died in June. She was 92 and suffered from dementia and the physical crippling results of a stroke. I hated visiting her and if I could have devised a satisfactory method of killing her I would have done.She was a parody of the person she used to be and would have spat at me with venom for dumping her in a home if she understood where she was. Thankfully her moments of clarity were few and far between and forgotten within seconds.
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The visits were horrific for me Dobbo, Dad just wanted me to go as he didn't want me to see him in such distress, he was fairly compos mentis despite all the drugs. To the very end he was trying to protect me and his family from his horror. We have had this conversation before Dobbo, if there was a button to press at his bedside to end his pain I would have pressed it, absolutely no question about that.
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This is a problem for all of us. First our parents and then our wives/husbands/brothers/sisters and there is no system in place to deal with it.No one wants to end up not knowing if their visitor is a daughter or a fellow patient or a nurse or cleaner but its what we face without sensible legislation on assisted dying.My wife and I have done a deal that will hopefully result in us dying on the same day but you never know how fate will strike you down and leave you incapable of influencing events.
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ethunasia should definatley be legalised
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ive never come across this in my family, sounds very bad indeed
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