Had the biggest lost of my life

So sorry JRW for your loss - makes our gripes and moans on here so insignificant. Your good lady is now your soulmate forever and will always be with you. Good luck mate.

So sorry to hear this,  as said before puts other things in context.

best RF

So sorry for your loss. May no more sorrow enter your life. There is no consolation for a loss of such magnitude other than that she is now at peace with no more suffering. Cancer and dementia are the most horrible conditions and anyone who says that there can be a caring God when such suffering is inflicted on innocent people is misguided at the very least.

echo all above sentiments, your wife is at peace now from that indiscriminate and insidious disease

OP
chin up
   GL

an horrible disease....condolences to you jrw

thoughts with you jrw..awful time.

Awful Pal.  My thoughts are with you.

Horrible disease sincere condolences I lost my mate in August diagnosed then passed 1 month later

Really sorry to hear that jrw. My heart has sunk reading your terrible news. All the very best to you and your family.

My condolences too you and your family jrw, she is at peace and free from pain now.

sorry to hear that JRW  ,sincere condolences

RIP.

very sad to hear
strength and courage for the new year
condolences

I share your sorrow at that dreadful disease.I well understand your loss. We lost our daughter to colon cancer at an age where doctors said people of that age don't get the disease. She was one of two in the 16 to 23 year age group who did that year. Even the other being a nurse was evidently of no help in getting an early diagnosis.

Dec 20, 2018 -- 7:25PM, Slicer wrote:

So sorry for your loss. May no more sorrow enter your life. There is no consolation for a loss of such magnitude other than that she is now at peace with no more suffering. Cancer and dementia are the most horrible conditions and anyone who says that there can be a caring God when such suffering is inflicted on innocent people is misguided at the very least.

Sincere condolences to jrw for his loss but to use this thread to bring up your anti religion rhetoric is a lot more than 'misguided'.

Slicer. I think that most of who suffer such a great loss doubt that there is any thing to believe in. I look at the millions buried in War Cemeteries and ask Why ?

My mother once told me that that her mother told her not to go to her grave when she'd passed(wasting money&time on buying/laying flowers etc) as SHE WOULDN'T BE THERE. Shortly before she passed she pressed her hand against her daughter's heart and said this is where I'll be.

Once someone is physically gone, they're as spiritually alive as their "living" loved ones keep them.

ATB jrw

Really sorry to hear of ur loss JRW, passing always seems worse at this time of year. The 2 year battle must have been very difficult for you both, just hope your wife didnt suffer too much, but she will live on in your memories and be looking down on you in 2019, take good care of yourself at this time.

with all your memories she will never really leave you,deepest condolences.

Sorry too here this  , may the stars look soon you and guide
Through these testing times !

My sincere condolences, jrw.

When things hit you hard, you must look no further than your family and your very best friends if you need them. Time heals, it really does but you will not have a day where you don't remember but that is ok mate.

Thank you all for your kind words , it has helped me

May God bless you, sorry to hear of your terribly sad news.

Extremely sad to wake up to this terrible news. .My thoughts are with you .

Deepest condolences jrw.

Condolences JRW.

Sad news,best wishes JRW

Sorry to hear your loss, hope you find the strength to get through these difficult times and then you can enjoy the memories.

Sorry for your loss.  Hopefully as time passes more people will be saved from this awful disease.

RIP.

very sorry to hear of your loss jrw , condolences

MJK- that was not my intention, just a comment like any other. If you want an argument and want to make an issue of this start a different thread, this is not the place. I meant no offence to JRW and was just stating  that there is no justice when a loved one is taken so cruelly. In the meantime JRW, remember that those who live in our hearts never die!

omg how awful, thoughts and prayers are with you and yours

'jrw', really sorry to hear that particularly this time of the year. Condolences to you and your family. Hope your family gather round and see this thro' as best and as less painful as possible. All the best for the future.

Condolences jrw very sad news .

Condolences to you Sir.

hard to find any other words what have not been written

all the best jrw

first day back at work on sat 19 Jan at Haydock had **** xmas found it  very hard got good friends and family round me just hope it gets better cos its so hard to live without someone who I spend 42 years of my life with

much sympathy jrw

lost mine last year luckily all over in 3 weeks
went in hospital
1st nov brought home 16th  died 25th
pancreatic cancer
together 50 years and 2 months came as a bloody shock when she went.

Glad to hear you have friends and family around you jrw I am sure they will get you through this hard time.

TRY be strong JRW. Theirs a fantastic community behind you here if you need us ..

Truly brother I tell you if you think she's gone then I am sorry for your families loss .

But if you believe and have true faith you will already know she hasn't gone anywhere. She's infact become part of you and I promise through the Lord you will see her again.

Once you have grieved return to happiness because she wouldn't want you feeling low.

I was once told by a very wise priest ,

Every human has a soul Good or bad people , but not to be confused with the spirit. The spirit and a persons soul are completely different.

The soul is eternal where the spirit is not.

So please do not worry and in quite moments and deep meditation / prayer you can still speak to her and she will speak back. Have faith and no lose heart my brother.

So sorry for you jrw, can't imagine how tough that must be, wish you all best this year.

...and to those others who also posted their lost ones on this post too.

My deepest condolences for your loss jrw

jwr  so sorry for you mate, but your wife will live on in your heart. Memories never day, I lost my mum over 40 years ago and I can still see her smiling face. The pain slowly goes but your wife never will.Good luck mate XXX

Also hope you will free to come on here and chat whenever you like jrw - talking helps even further down the line.

My condolences jrw.

Condolence's to both jrw and Hapless, times a healer but keep them both close to your thoughts every day............

i know exactly what you have went through mate,, im going through the same myself just now,, my daughter in law hasnt got long only 34,, chin up pal ,,

Sorry to hear that bad news cardenden. Very very sad at such a young age. I`ve been in similar situations and one feels totally useless being unable to help. Keep strong mate for your daughter in law.

Well Diff=rent was allowed to use the religious unknown as a given,
So I shall give the philosophical one.

Loss is felt relative to the pleasure that was received from something.
As difficult as loss is its just the emotion of having had something
If you had never had the chance to enjoy what you had you would have felt no loss.
Which would have you preferred?
Dont dwell on what you have no control over.
Good luck.

so sorry to learn of your loss jrw. a lot of very nice words on this thread. please take comfort from them.
a lot of good people are on this forum and if you want to chat then do just that. good luck and chin up....

That is just awful to read cardenden, 34 is absolutely no age

she was to start her kemo last tuesday, but was cancelled due to a infection in her mouth ,but hopefully her treatment will begin thursday or friday,,  i dont think theres a family that has never been affected with cancer,, thanks for all the kind  comments guys .

Your wife didn't lose the battle JRW. The cancer lost it's grisly grip when your good lady left this room. IT died!. Your wife lives on in your heart. One day you will find it easier to smile again old chap.

[i]Oldgit1    20 Dec 18 21:23 
".........I look at the millions buried in War Cemeteries and ask Why ?...."
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Because, as a species, human beings are flawed.

Got to take another step forward this weekend wifes birthday on February 10 Sunday first one since shes passed away, going out with family and friends on Friday and Saturday still think it will be very hard

well said evilroy ! good luck jrw .

best wishes cardenden ! thoughts are with you and jrw

All the best jrw - tough for sure, but sounds like you have some good 'uns around you.

Haven't seen this before, time isn't a healer but the you will be able to handle the pain better but the grief will still be there I'm sure. Just do your best to carry on, having family and/or pets will help I'm sure.

I was saying to my wife earlier before I read this that she would have to learn to use all the Computers/TVs/mobiles and other gadgets if I wasn't around and she said she would be lost without me. We have been married for 38 years and I couldn't imagine being without her.

i wonder if everybody who loses a family member will start a new thread

Betfair could put a Births, Marriages and Deaths section under Announcements

excellent idea rooster. i see they are already running a service section

In this instance I think jrw was right to post on here, compared to the very many inane posts we do get.

If it helps him to cope then I think it is great, we should always treat people the way we would like to be treated ourselves.

Sorry if some of you think its a daft post but tomorrow will be the first time in 45 years I can not see my wife to wish her happy birthday and tell how much I love her and putting this post up stops me crying for a bit which does help, sorry if some of you think this post is silly

There's plenty 'silly' posts on this forum jrw, wouldn't worry about that!

Not that I believe yours is BTW....

Of course it isn't silly jrw and this thread has proved how many, kind, compassionate and caring people there are on this forum of ours. Celebrate your dear wife tomorrow, shed a few tears and raise a glass of cheer in her honour, she will always be with you in your heart and soul and her memory will be a very part of you til you join her. All the very best to you Sir.

Well said slippy, if anything threads like this make me realise there are a lot of decent people who post on here...

Well said SlippyBlue.

well said slippy and jrw if it helps to talk on here then go ahead mate  plenty of good uns on here ,if any clown has the temerity to mock then they will  get the full backlash they deserve fro,m the forum.

That is a tough day for you, I can only echo what SB said.

jrw I was thinking about you today, I hope your day has gone as well as it could possibly could have been and that you and yours all celebrated your dear wife today and toasted to her memory.It must have been very tough for you but she will always be with you, forever and a day.

Thanks lads it was so hard, but did it would like to thank you all for the support you have give me it does mean a lot to me

If it makes you feel a bit better then it's a good thing to post about it,we all here might all learn a bit about what's coming down the tracks for us all.

There’s nothing wrong in general with the human spirit; people tend to go easy on others in times of need or if they see them in trouble....
But contrast this with the fact not one person giving condolences here would think twice about taking everything you have given half the chance if a mistake was made on the exchange.

Welcome to the lie that greed is good.

Just came across your thread. My sincere condolences for your loss jrw.

Nobody thinks your daft and if posting on here helps you even a tiny bit, then post away mate...

Take care.

Dustybin, do you really think that is an appropriate comment to make on this thread?

"There’s nothing wrong in general with the human spirit" Are you for real? I suggest you do not sully this thread again.

SlippyBlue

Its not the human spirit that’s at fault, it’s the manipulation of human desire.
The thread that’s on an exchange you mean?...akin to an epicurean walled garden within the hunting grounds.

Jrw
I’m sorry for your loss, but people are blind to philosophy.
They’d call the condolences instances of self pity, momentary distractions from the worship of money.

But I’ll agree not to speak on this thread again out of respect....unless somebody tries to shout me down.

jrw 11 Feb 19 08:58
Thanks lads it was so hard, but did it would like to thank you all for the support you have give me it does mean a lot to me

We find comfort in the most unexpected places in this crazy world, if it helps all good. Best wishes fella.

Hello jrw, i read your post shortly after you posted it but could not find the right words to respond,"Sorry for your loss" "Be strong, she'll always be in your heart forever" don't seem adequate when life has dealt you such a massive blow. I hope you don't mind but i'm posting a link to a beautiful song not by some youngster with little life experience but by an old hand who may be similar in years to yourself if not a fair bit older. He's passed now but his words live on. This song is hauntingly beautiful as is the video, take some time to watch and listen to it. If you look down to the 1st post under the video, it's from a lady who has also recently lost her lifetime partner.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGorjBVag0I&list=RDNGorjBVag0I&start_radio=1

Got to take another giant step forward on Tuesday March 5 would have been my 43 Wedding Anniversary, but this time all on my own do try and keep myself busy, but when I shut the front door at night its hard not to think about my wife only worked  2 days in the last 5 weeks , but Cheltenham coming up and more work on its way

You think you have but you just wait and see you will have much bigger ones it's just a matter of time and your stupidity

I've been there and don't worry your on your way .I can't wait for mine it will proove that I know what I'm talking about .

dont think you have read the thread correctly do wah'

best to have another look

I'm very sorry .I just went on a rant and never read the thread please accept my apologies
I'm so sorry

PLEASE FOR GIVE ME

I'm very sorry .I just went on a rant and never read the thread please accept my apologies
I'm so sorry

PLEASE FOR GIVE ME

I'm very sorry .I just went on a rant and never read the thread please accept my apologies
I'm so sorry

PLEASE FOR GIVE ME

I would be more embarrassed in thinking forgive is two words!

Just what's needed here, The spelling police...

Condolences to the OP.

Indeed.

JRW. The first day you are able to really smile at the thought of your lovely wife, that is the day you will be on the mend. We may be a bunch of crackpots on here, but it's OUR asylum, and we do care. Get up and about old boy..... it works wonders.

Well said^^

keep going lad my experience it never goes away or gets easier
just think what she would say to you  when your down
still talk to mine up the cemetery find it eases the mind