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I was sexually abused when I was a boy aged 11 .
The person who abused me is a relative . After it happened , I never told a single soul .
Month's later , I tried to tell my 14 year old Brother about it , but he told me to go away .
That incident damaged me badly , 10 years later I got drunk and at 3 am , I phoned the The Samaritans to
tell them about it and I cried my eyes out .
The helpful lady Police Officer I talked to on Monday , told me that the ball is now in their court , they
will run checks on the computer about that person whose name I gave and if anything interesting
emerges , I'll then be contacted and asked to make a statement .
I'm glad I went into that Police Station yesterday , I should have done it years ago .
Thank you to the Shrewd_ Dude , and The Leopard for they're opinions about it when I mentioned
it on the 'I'm going to Paris ' thread .
I'll give an update here if I hear anything back from the cops .
The person who abused me is a relative . After it happened , I never told a single soul .
Month's later , I tried to tell my 14 year old Brother about it , but he told me to go away .
That incident damaged me badly , 10 years later I got drunk and at 3 am , I phoned the The Samaritans to
tell them about it and I cried my eyes out .
The helpful lady Police Officer I talked to on Monday , told me that the ball is now in their court , they
will run checks on the computer about that person whose name I gave and if anything interesting
emerges , I'll then be contacted and asked to make a statement .
I'm glad I went into that Police Station yesterday , I should have done it years ago .
Thank you to the Shrewd_ Dude , and The Leopard for they're opinions about it when I mentioned
it on the 'I'm going to Paris ' thread .
I'll give an update here if I hear anything back from the cops .
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So was I. When I was 6 and also by a relative. It happened a few times. "Don't tell anyone" they said and so naturally, being a kid, I told my mum. It was all hushed up (and did stop) but I realised as I got older that it was put under the carpet in order to protect the abuser and that annoys me. My girlfriend knows, but that is all. I won't be going to the police for two reasons. Firstly, sheer embarrassment of having family members look at me and *imagine*. Secondly, I can't prove it. It's my word against his and I know which side my mum, the one person I told, would back. I can't say it's affected me in the way it does other people. The thing that gets me is the way it was covered up and the abuser now has a successful career in the city and everyone thinks the sun shines out of his arse. I sometimes find myself thinking of ways I could damage his life. Not through violence; that would simply result in my getting into trouble and he's not worth that. But there are other, more subtle, ways that people can have "bad luck". Maybe I will, maybe I won't. Good luck with your case, though.
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Thank you for that contribution , lybertyne .
As it happens my abuser also has a very good job , highly paid , etc . Well he did have 3 years ago , I was then told that he was in Hospital and near deaths door after having had serious heart trouble . He recovered but I don't know if he then retired or not . By the way , he could possibly be a member of the betfair forum because he loves gambling , despite him being p1ss poor at it . The last time I saw him was at my mothers funeral 10 years ago and I heard him talking about placing over a grand on a horse in The Gold Cup at Cheltenham . I heard him say he placed that bet at Betfair . That bet lost . He's going to lose again if this thing goes to court . lybertyne , You know what , I was so so sexually naive when I was aged 11 , I thought babies came out of a woman's belly button , I'm not joking . |
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good luck culvin, and to you lybertyne.
brave thing to do. |
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Good luck to you brave gentlemen.
I can't imagine the pain and anguish you've suffered. I pray that the perpetrators receive justice. |
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Thank you ,... you .have . to .laugh...and Mr Eboue .
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chin up, Culvin, i hope you find what you're looking for
Lybertyne: I admire your patience |
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I'm proper chinned up , Mate . I feel Great !
I've never felt better or more able , in all my life . Paris , threw the f00kin kitchen sink of negativity at me and I did seriously buckle at times but I took it all on the chin and when I happily returned to England , I returned The Victor . My next little adventure abroad will be to Rome . Maybe next month , not sure because I've got a lot on my plate at the moment . By the way , Baphornet ' I think you're one of the best chit chatters here . All The Very Best To You . Ps , Any chance I could meet your beautiful lady someday , ha ha .  |
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^ It's very tempting - but I think I'll leave it!
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Thank you for resisting tempation , The Management .
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^ Temptation .
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You're very welcome - I appreciate you setting it up for me anyway - it took all my self control but I don't like to win via a tap-in.
I hope the Romans are kind to you. |
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I only hope the The very many beautiful woman of Rome are kind to me , The Management .
But I'm not greedy , I'll happily just settle for one beauty . I've actually got a few beauties on the go at the minute , but that's OK because all those lovelies understand that it's all just fun and games . I don't tell lies to any of them and I never will . |
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I'm not some sort of stud pathetically trying to impress by bed notching . I don't actually put my c. o . c . k ,
into any of my special female friends , I just like to kiss and cuddle them and do other little lovely things , know what I mean ?  |
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Very brave of you both to share your stories on here, sometimes it really can help to talk anonymously on this forum and we certainly are, between us, a very eclectic and sympathetic bunch of people. I wish you both the very best whatever the outcome, best of luck.
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Thanks and Cheers , Slippy !
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I am very sorry to hear what happened to you Culvin and Lybertyne
You are very brave to have survived it, I wish you well It shows how important it is to protect children from these appalling predators I wish you both well in the future, and hope you can deal with the fallout better, you were both victims This world can an eveil place at times. |
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Thank you very much for that post , UBLE/REGY .
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UPDATE .
I was contacted the following day by The Police Officer who I spoke to at The Police Station on Monday . She gave me a reference number . I was then contacted by a police detective yesterday and informed by her that she would like to speak to me in about a months time when she returns from her holiday . I got the impression from her that something interesting may have been found about Nutjob when they ran his name into the police computer . I'll know for sure when I meet and speak to her next month . |
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Culvin
I was then contacted by a police detective yesterday and informed by her that she would like to speak to me in about a months time when she returns from her holiday Are you certain they're taking this seriously. Not exactly pulling up any trees is she? Sounds a little like she's saying "Sorry to hear you've been rogered senseless, I'll take a look at it when I'm back from Mykonos". |
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I very much sensed that she was taking it seriously , Johnny .
She told me she was about to holiday in Rhyl , by the way . You ever been there , Johnny ? I believe it's a complete dump now , but I loved going there as a kid . |
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Brave of you. Hope it hasn't stopped you living a full life.
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I bin through it en route to Conwy.
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A very sensitive , and some would say , emotional thread including personal accounts from two very brave posters . It may prove valuable to anyone else out there who may have experience similar traumas who maybe don't have the courage to speak out .
And then we have the obligatory nonsensical garbage from the forum funt who , as ever , attempts to trivialise an otherwise very serious thread  mouse muldoon • July 11, 2019 2:15 PM BST I bin through it en route to Conwy. To @Culvin and @Lybertyne : I sincerely hope you both , and others who have had similar experiences , are able one day to put all of this behind you . My heart goes out to you both  |
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Well said, Reynard.
There's a time and a place for acting the goat, and this isn't it. |