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05 Nov 18
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Still can't reach my son, following his earlier message of concern for his friend....
I sent this to The Samaritans....
Need advice please (e-mailing as I'm very deaf.
My son James 942)messaged me earlier but isn't responding to my replies.
His old friend Tom, of the same age, he says is in a bad way!
James spoke last night, and this morning, and he thinks he might take his own life!
Tom's mum was killed whilst walking her horse, and hid dad killed himself a few years later.
James is in Leeds, and Tom, I think, is in Selby.
Please can you suggest what James should do?
James has given him a Samaritan's number....
I know one has to tread carefully, in these circumstances, and thinking that James may well be en route to see him!
I'm guessing that Tom will have had a drink, or three, which always exacerbates the problem!
Any of you good people have experience of this sort of thing?
I sent this to The Samaritans....
Need advice please (e-mailing as I'm very deaf.
My son James 942)messaged me earlier but isn't responding to my replies.
His old friend Tom, of the same age, he says is in a bad way!
James spoke last night, and this morning, and he thinks he might take his own life!
Tom's mum was killed whilst walking her horse, and hid dad killed himself a few years later.
James is in Leeds, and Tom, I think, is in Selby.
Please can you suggest what James should do?
James has given him a Samaritan's number....
I know one has to tread carefully, in these circumstances, and thinking that James may well be en route to see him!
I'm guessing that Tom will have had a drink, or three, which always exacerbates the problem!
Any of you good people have experience of this sort of thing?
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....just to say that my son is not 942 but 42.....
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if you genuinely believe someone may be about to take their own life then you would need to contact the police.
They can at least intervene immediately, force entry to a property if required and if needed take them into protective custody under the mental health act. if this is not genuine then you maybe need sectioned yourself. |
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I can't give personal advice or nor would I try, however; I do have a friend, an American Psychologist, who advised me that the warning signs for suicide are not so much people saying they want to commit suicide, as saying how they want to do it. Once they enter this latter region they need help, and quick.
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Probably good advice, but clearly shouldn't have posted on here!
There was no need for your last comment, was there.... My son said he spoke last night, and again this morning, and says he is in a bad way. A work colleague says he is on his way over right now, so time will tell |
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Aspro, my comment was to northanlite...
Your comment makes complete sense btw...thanks for that. |
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unfortunately not everyone who posts on here is genuine, as you are probably aware.
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This, the latest from James....
I've made him speak to the Samaritans twice. He says he has done anyway.....He's smashed The thing is... his life genuinely is in tatters You know his mum died when on or leading a horse when he was 16... Then he had his accident and coma Then his dad hung himself He hasn't seen his kids in about 6 months He's probably going to get sacked How the hell can anyone talk him around from that?! James is picking him up, and taking him to stay at his, for a few days, as his wife and kids will be there, because of school holidays, so hopefully that will bring him to his sensess! |
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The reality is that you can't solve other peoples problems you can only be there and sometimes that's enough.
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Hopefully he has been averted from immediate suicide, I would say it was right to call the police...
Perhaps he could get help from the mental health system, but getting help is very hard now...money He needs a psychologist long term to help him deal with his problems, perhaps???? Whether he will get one on NHS I don't know.... I hope for the best...very worrying for you I can see Lady |
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This, the latest from James....
I've made him speak to the Samaritans twice. He says he has done anyway.....He's smashed The thing is... his life genuinely is in tatters You know his mum died when on or leading a horse when he was 16... Then he had his accident and coma Then his dad hung himself He hasn't seen his kids in about 6 months He's probably going to get sacked How the hell can anyone talk him around from that?! James is picking him up, and taking him to stay at his, for a few days, as his wife and kids will be there, because of school holidays, so hopefully that will calm things down! |
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Does the Guy have any other Family ?? If so I would get them involved, Brother or Sister ...
Is he drinking or taking Drugs Prescribed or Otherwise ?? |
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A sad story. Hope things work out for him.
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