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30 Oct 15 18:29
Date Joined: 18 May 05
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Hope somebody could help me please. I work at a small company and have recently had to take days off due to a medical issue, only my immediate family know about the issue.
I want to tell the manager about it but he in turn will tell the owner and i work with the owners son but want it kept secret basically.
Are there any laws i could quote to make sure it isnt talked about and basically everybody knowing?
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Report s.kenbo October 30, 2015 5:38 PM GMT
Unless it's something that will come to light at a later stage, then I suggest fibbing to them.
Report 11kv October 30, 2015 5:48 PM GMT
Just tell it was a personal issue and quote their  Inclusive and Diversity policy which I'm  sure they have in place alongside there Health and Safety Policy Statement.
Report i_agree_with_nick October 30, 2015 6:03 PM GMT
Why wouldn't the owner and manager keep quiet?
Report Roquebrune October 30, 2015 6:32 PM GMT
Tell us what the "medical issue" is,we won't tell anyone....
Report BERLINGTONBERTIE October 30, 2015 6:34 PM GMT
I work with the owners son so im pretty sure his dad would tell him.
Report i_agree_with_nick October 30, 2015 6:42 PM GMT
A manager with any integrity should never betray a confidence but I can see that you wouldn't want to risk it.
Report BERLINGTONBERTIE October 30, 2015 6:48 PM GMT
I`m pretty sure it will be betrayed, thats why i`m asking to be honest.
Report TheBaron October 30, 2015 7:02 PM GMT
There are no secrets in a small company, the truth will come out sooner rather than later.
Report 11kv October 30, 2015 7:02 PM GMT
Small firm you say do they an HR person ?
Report Just Checking October 30, 2015 7:07 PM GMT
Berlin G to N Bertie
(I think this is a lancaster communication in 1944 :)

Try reading this (has preview if you're worried)

I don't think you need to. If they push it maybe your doctor could sign off that you needed to be off for a bona fide condition of undisclosed nature? I'm sure that sort of thing happens.
Report 11kv October 30, 2015 7:08 PM GMT
Citizens advice bureau or solicitor if its that important to you get their advice and be forearmed
Report MadVlad October 30, 2015 7:11 PM GMT
ffs we have all had penis enlargements on the NHS surely there is no stigma these days ??? Plain
Report Just Checking October 30, 2015 7:14 PM GMT
I had a job interview for a major corporation, they asked me to turn up with a pre signed form giving them access to all my medical records, at the interview stage. I'd never do that, I though it big company arrogance and pushy attitude of a company I wouldn't like, so I didn't. ***k em.
Report 11kv October 30, 2015 7:16 PM GMT
*Penis reduction Devil
Report MadVlad October 30, 2015 7:17 PM GMT
Errr that's what I meant 11KV Blush
Report 11kv October 30, 2015 7:24 PM GMT
Report Roquebrune October 30, 2015 7:53 PM GMT
If it's gender reassignment,won't the boss notice? Silly
Report Clouseau October 30, 2015 8:00 PM GMT
This might be of use.

Also this from the CAB public site which is more concerned with sick-pay but refers to the requirement for sick notes etc.

Telling your employer you are sick – Statutory Sick Pay

Your employer may ask you to follow certain rules about telling them you are off sick. They still have to pay you SSP even if you don't follow these rules. For example, they still have to pay you SSP even if you don't:

provide a medical certificate until your eighth day of illness
phone in by a certain time of day to tell them you are sick
phone in more than once a week when you are off sick
phone in yourself and ask someone else to do it on your behalf.
However, if you break the rules, you will be breaking the terms of your employment contract and eventually this could lead to you losing your job. Your employer must let you know what these rules are in advance.

Self-certification of sickness and SSP

During your first seven days off sick, your employer must not ask you for a medical certificate. However, they can ask you for confirmation that you are sick and you must provide it if they ask for it, otherwise you may not get any SSP. Your employer may ask for either:-

a handwritten note from you saying what is wrong, or
a self-certification of sickness form provided by your employer, which you must complete. This could be form SC2, provided to employers by HM Revenue and Customs, or your employer's own self-certification form. There is more information about self-certification and a copy of the SC2 form on the GOV.UK website at
Report kenvil October 30, 2015 8:35 PM GMT
you dont have to declare any illness, you can say you would rather not say and dont answer the question.

Just checking, was it before 2010 ?? 2010 equity acts means a company has no right to access any medical records of potential employees. Something to do with discrimination.
Report Just Checking October 30, 2015 8:41 PM GMT
Yes kenvil, pre 2010. TBH It soured the whole thing, I went into the interview already with a negative feeling about the company's culture and what it would be like to work there, and I'd a mate who worked at a similar company and he was always giving me stories down the pub about the sh*t he suffered.

It didn't help that I'd turned up safe and early for the interview, I went for a little walk around, then unexpected rain come on and I turned up "soggy" Laugh
Report MadVlad October 30, 2015 8:46 PM GMT
FFS you get ONE penis reduction Crazy
Report G1_Jockey_4 October 31, 2015 9:46 AM GMT
tell yer doc the problem....they may be a bit more careful when describing the issue
Report Just Checking October 31, 2015 10:21 AM GMT
If his medical problem is "can't post to betfait forums more than 3 times a week" we'll ALL look stupid.
Report BERLINGTONBERTIE October 31, 2015 1:39 PM GMT
Thanks everybody. Think im just going to say ive an ongoing medical issue that i dont want to divulge.
Report akabula October 31, 2015 2:14 PM GMT
I wouldn't use the term ongoing as the company might then want to know how this is going to impact on your future employment.
Report boxingthefox October 31, 2015 3:27 PM GMT
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