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as a big sufferer myself, was elated to hear tonight that this was one of the most unattractive traits in men by females.
after reaching 26 it's become clear to me that things like money, good looks, sense o' humour, background etc are insignificant to achieving a happy or content state of existance.
females who lack confidence aree fine. it's not nearly so important. males who lack it? FORGET IT.
you will be percived as weak, and looked over in all walks of life.
don't get me wrong, i've met, and been close to girls before, but to reach that comfortable stage takes time and in th rare times you can achive this state it's always ballsed up when u have to meet the mates or family. if her circle of mates or family think yoiur a socially retarded moron then it's NEVER goi9ng to work. so what did you think of "xxxxxxxxx"?? ummmmmmmm. he's ok. what do you mean by ok? well not sure, but i think you could do better..... DOOMED.
would love to be abkle to overcome it. but can't think of anyone who once was shy, who managed to overcome it and became more socially adequate. not one.
i don't think it's summit you can ever change. i'd pay thousands just to be able to overcome it. drink and drugs help no end, short term that is. but that's it. no long term solution. believe me i've been tryiong for over 10 years.
after reaching 26 it's become clear to me that things like money, good looks, sense o' humour, background etc are insignificant to achieving a happy or content state of existance.
females who lack confidence aree fine. it's not nearly so important. males who lack it? FORGET IT.
you will be percived as weak, and looked over in all walks of life.
don't get me wrong, i've met, and been close to girls before, but to reach that comfortable stage takes time and in th rare times you can achive this state it's always ballsed up when u have to meet the mates or family. if her circle of mates or family think yoiur a socially retarded moron then it's NEVER goi9ng to work. so what did you think of "xxxxxxxxx"?? ummmmmmmm. he's ok. what do you mean by ok? well not sure, but i think you could do better..... DOOMED.
would love to be abkle to overcome it. but can't think of anyone who once was shy, who managed to overcome it and became more socially adequate. not one.
i don't think it's summit you can ever change. i'd pay thousands just to be able to overcome it. drink and drugs help no end, short term that is. but that's it. no long term solution. believe me i've been tryiong for over 10 years.
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Nash have you read The Game ?
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heavy drinking.
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actually it is obvious you have not. though your views above are widely held they are actually wrong.
Read The Game and to coin a cliche... End of Thread. |
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i very much doubt it's wrong my friend.
how many outgoing, confident, losers have you met? |
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Nash. This is one of those situations where I am 100% right and you just don't know it yet. I could write a bit about it on here but tbh it spoils a good book. The book is a story based on a true story and a good read. I heard about it and bought it for a freind, he is now a different man, albeit the same person underneath.
Just get the book, and thank me later. |
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i will look into it. thanks. and i cross my fingers that it is that simple.
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Thinking on I might reread it as I am recently single again lol.
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Shyness is nice, and
Shyness can stop you From doing all the things in life You'd like to... |
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Jim Hensen 20 Dec 02:24
actually it is obvious you have not. though your views above are widely held they are actually wrong. Isn't that the problem? If the views are widely held ,it doesn't matter if they are wrong The fact they are widely held is what is screwing him. He still ends up the loser. |
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they are widely held by people lacking in confidence sociallly. They are easily overcome, and therefore wrong. If that makes more sense.
At the worst the book is a good read. I think it was an international bestseller so cannot be too shabby, and it is aimed at just such a person, though I think he may be fishing lol. |
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Google The game & mystery method and you will find a million websites spin offs from it. I guess the actual material is very dated but the principles remain the same. Some good insight into how women think which is the key.
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DO NOT try to impress Ladies!
When you intentionally try to impress a woman, you send the following messages on a "subtle" level: 1) I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I will try to "impress" you instead. 2) I'm not comfortable enough around women to just act normal. 3) I don't have a lot of experience with attractive women. 4) I'm insecure. 5) I don't know how to make women feel comfortable with me. Just be "natural" and try to tease them.:) |
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and if that fails insist they show you their chest.
and dont forget to say ta |
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Try not to say only say "cool" things, or things
that will "impress" the woman. Do not act nervous and stilted during the conversation, this can come across as "formal." If you do say something that the woman doesn't like,do not "back-pedal" and try to change what you said . IMPORTANT! Try to say "risky" things, tease the woman, and, very occassionally, "upset" her and then make amends. |
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You can thank me later...:)
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after we've finished laughing of course
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I big tip is spend all yer time on here typing complete b0llocks and wait for the birds to come a knocking ;)
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theres someone at the door
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absolutely,loose women are falling over themselves to get involved with top forumites
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Its all in the mind. tell yourself you dont give a sh1t.
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kohaku on the money...
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Susan**was a shy virgin spinster once. :)
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most chicks are only interested in one thing
me |
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If the Woman in the office is very attractive, befriend her but then let the other Guys swarm around her like Bees to a honetpot and laugh about it with her but instead of joining in keep your distance and she will be curious and wonder you are the only Male NOT fawning all over her and she will investigate..lol
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or just assume you're gay
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sound advice,don't make the mistake of being awestruck and stick em on a pedestal,they're as intimidated of men as you are of them.
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One important point there from opening post
women being shy isnt a problem - disagree on that a little. A woman with confidence important imo. Dont want to be with a pushover. Thats the key for me both women and men want to meet their match with a partner not feel like the other has an inferiority complex |
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STEPTOES YARD 20 Dec 08:50
I big tip is spend all yer time on here typing complete b0llocks and wait for the birds to come a knocking ;) :D |
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in the modern world , with women having access to anne summers and internet porn , I reckon if your not packing 7 inch plus it doesnt matter if your a shy guy or mr bombastic pretty fantastic,YOU MAY ASWELL BECOME GAY
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Sadly I'm a pauper but its amazing how "sexy" and "attractive2 a Man looks and seems when he is holding lots of folding...
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Suddenly the rich Guy has a great "personality" and "charisma" about him and is incredibly witty and funny...:)
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just find a group of ladies
go over and chat to the ugliest one. the rest will wonder what the hell is going on. thats it.take your pick ;) oh was that the front door or the back door :D |
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Hate to burst any balloons but "the game" and it's sequel"rules of the game" is written by a journo you dozy twonks.Having said that the book is an amusiing read and could be of use to some.Oddly most people who buy it are asian males.
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BonViv 20 Dec 12:43
Hate to burst any balloons but "the game" and it's sequel"rules of the game" is written by a journo you dozy twonks. He was a journalist reporting on "Pick-up artists" but, in the process, became a famous one himself and based the book on his experiences. For those that haven't read it, it's essentially a book of pulling techniques with some interesting social anthropology and neuro-linguistic programming thrown in. It's actually a fascinating read, even if you don't implement it's lessons. |
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I think it depends on how shy you are and I guess what the woman you are going for is like. I like a man to be confident but not arrogant. That doesnt mean you have to act like a complete idiot. Why not look at what she is drinking and go over and buy her a drink, be subtle but dominant at the same time.
anymore tips just visit my website howtopullfitwomen. com |
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grow some balls. and don't be so vain. not everyone you meet will spend as much time thinking about you as you seem to think.
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ZBH - has a point. Shyness is a form of arrogance if you think about it.
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my m8 is knocking up 40 a great lad but very shy, tried to get him a date with a m8 of our lasses, said hes a bit shy not been out with many girls, " what good is he to me then, im not running a learner sex driver school" was the reply, the modern women huh!!!
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I'm happy to act as a charisma donor if it helps.
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