help!

Man'O

14 years in a row? Do you win elsewhere? If your gambling is hurting you or your
family, you should definitely get help.

If you lose money from disposable income, and can afford it, then it's just a hobby
provided you get pleasure from it.

Seriously, people destroy their lives by gambling - get help if you need to. Ban
yourself on all your accounts. Go to www.gamcare.org.uk. Join GA. Whatever it takes.

Hi Pete

Thanks for the reply and advice.

I started betfair since university. At that time I had 2 accounts and posted mainly on the other account. The forum was very active and got to chat with a lot of fellow gamblers on MSN including DJSunset, Compound Magic, UKMallia(to name a few). Some of them gave me some nice advice and some were like me and took the correct decision to stop.

I lost all money which my parent gave me for my tuition fees and university nearly did not give me my degree. Some days I had no food to eat. On exams eve, instead of revising I was on betfair betting on US and Aussie Racing until 5am. Fortunately I still managed to pay the fees to get the degree.

After leaving university and started working, I decreased the stake and bet only what I could afford. Since then, I guess I have lost nearly 100k on here and other sites(like all losers I do not know my correct loses).

I bet small or not at all while saving to get a big bank(about 10k). Then I can lose the 10k in 1 or 2 weeks which makes me very angry with myself.

I won 20k in the euro soccer final in 2016 and lose everything the next day!!!  My main problem is that I like chasing.

My wife knows I bet but does not know how much I lose on here. Fortunately my gambling does not affect us financially as we are stable but it does affect me morally as I could have spent the money in some other ways and instead of losing all this time on the gambling sites, I could have spend the time with my wife and child.

I had a bank of 15k in January in which only 200quid is left.

I really hope that every person reading this post does not make the same mistake as me.

Advice?  Withdraw the £200.  Close and self-exclude your account here and any other accounts you have.

You're losing money (would be ok if recreational and fun, it's neither), you're lying to your wife and you're angry/unhappy with yourself.

You really don't need gambling in your life.  Walk away.

Man O War I sorry to read about your situation and what you are going through. My tuppence worth is aside from the money issue is more importantly the time and life you are missing out on.

You say you have a family and kids and you are more than likely missing out on so much stuff. Your kids will be grown up before you know it , it just flies in and you will wonder how they hell did that happen but more importantly you will regret all that time you missed with them whilst they were growing up. M own Father says that is his biggest regret , while not a gambler , he didn't have a great job but yet worked every hour sent to pay the bills and provide us with every opportunity he could.  Now he is retired and watching his grand children grow up and loves every minute of it but says he missed it all with his own children growing up. 

Best of luck

Yep. Take out your money. Exclude yourself. Find something less harmful to distract you.

Whatever you have lost so far is gone. Forget it. Go and spend time with your children.

Take up cycling - the exercise is good for you mentally and the hormones you generate
will feed the part of you that needs a buzz. Just do it.

Never come back to gambling - if you have the wrong mind for it, you'll never beat it.

Surely 14 years losing should tell you that you haven't got what it makes to profit gambling. Exclude yourself like everyone said before it gets worse, it'll be a pain for a while but you'll soon get used to spending the money on something worthwhile.

I'm guessing your chasing mentality is the thing that's stopping you giving up at the moment as you probably beleive you can get it all back but deep down you should know even if you did you'd only blow it in a few weeks. Follow PeteTheBloke's advice and if that doesn't work try to seek professional help as it is out there.

Echo-ing the advice of all above. Give up NOW. Find something to occupy your spare time or at the very least reduce your stakes whilst you adjust to a life without gambling. I admire your honesty on the forum, where 'coming out' as a loser is definitely not the done thing, if you need it, professional help is also out there.

Don't dwell on the money you have already lost, it is gone, never to be returned and you have paid to attend a very expensive lesson.

This thread should be made a *sticky*. Betfair isn't a charity and neither are all of those bots offering money in hundreds of different obscure markets. When the fun stops, you most definitely need to stop.

I wish you all the best.

Don't beat yourself up.  You've obviously earned good money to be able to afford what you've lost.  Now earn it and spend it on someat else.  You also got your degree despite being handicapped by betting.  You're still young and in a decent place.

Call Gamcare.  Self exclude.  Find focus in something else ...  the gym, playing sport, bargain hunting and take your family out for the day more often.

If you "like chasing" the best thing you could do is to pack in betting. Almost every punter who regularly chases loses money. Plenty of other things to do with your spare time.

Get out M.O.W, NOW, and don't look back.

Hopefully most people that read your message will understand that you deserved to lose. I have no sympathy. It was your choice, We all should live and die by our own decisions.

I don't think he said anything that implied it was anyone else's fault. This forum
is full of people who agree completely with your point of view but have more compassion
than to kick a man who's on his backside.

For what it's worth, most gambling addicts I've met blame themselves entirely and
don't ask for sympathy.

chasing made koo.... tbh

2003?

I  may have read that wrong i thought it was fifteen years ago.