Chit Chat
There is currently 1 person viewing this thread.
Does anyone on here believe they have this?
Starting to think if i dont sort this out soon i could up up like this.
Any suggestions to ease boredom/anxiety without drinking?
If i did try to stop not sure i'd have much of a social life either.
Dont wake in the morning needing a drink etc but by about this time of day i start drinking. Thoughts?
Starting to think if i dont sort this out soon i could up up like this.
Any suggestions to ease boredom/anxiety without drinking?
If i did try to stop not sure i'd have much of a social life either.
Dont wake in the morning needing a drink etc but by about this time of day i start drinking. Thoughts?
sort by:
Show
per page
Replies: 67
|
By:
Just cut down and drink sensibly. You're getting to the age now where the body can't cope as well with excessive drinking
Take up a hobby that doesn't revolve around drinking. Make new friends. |
|
By:
you have answered it yourself,you are bored
|
|
By:
"Any suggestions to ease boredom/anxiety without drinking?"
Have you considered getting a dog mate? I take my Muttley out about 4 times a day and depending on the weather (he doesn't like rain too much) we do between 35-45 miles a week and you get to chat to other dog owners and we invariably stop off for a pint on the way home. I'd be lost without the little fella and he's a really social dog, he loves playing with other dogs in the park and it's a lot of fun being a dog owner. |
|
By:
A good indicator is whether you can have just one drink without any compulsion to have another.
If you find difficulty doing this you might have a problem. |
|
By:
dr yes im either no drink or loads, cant just do one.
slippy would love a dog but could it be alone for 9 hours at a time? gazo i just have an active brain and boredom comes easily for me nick that might be the way to go but starting the think the drink is taking a hold on me now thanks for replies |
|
By:
I packed in regular drinking friends over 20 years ago. It's likely they make you drink more- unless you have no discipline either way.
|
|
By:
If you think its taking a hold on you then I would suggest you need to act now.
You might need professional help but I'm no expert. |
|
By:
I packed in regular drinking friends over 20 years ago. It's likely they make you drink more- unless you have no discipline either way.
Same here but about 18 years ago. I never really had a drink problem but like a lot of young men, I probably drank more than I should when I was in my 20s. |
|
By:
I was drinking heavily a few years back, which led to a TIA. Blood pressure was 230/110 when I was admitted but try as they might, I just couldn't get it down as the Dr kept increasing my medication, whilst I continued to drink. Finally managed to quit drinking and everything returned to normal. Now I'm no longer sick from withdrawals, I sleep better, don't suffer anxiety, no longer slur when I speak, I no longer bump into walls and the hallucinations have stopped... yes, it got that bad!
I doubt you're anywhere near that prepared but it doesn't take long to get there. Be aware! |
|
By:
YOU WILL STOP DRINKING ONLY WHEN YOUVE HAD ENOUGH PAIN WITH IT OR DIE FROM IT
|
|
By:
prepared83 booloxs to the alcohol
we only want to know how its going with that bird 2nd time round tar |
|
By:
"slippy would love a dog but could it be alone for 9 hours at a time?"
No mate, that's definitely a non runner then, you can't leave a dog alone all day. I'm lucky in so far as if I go away there are always several people around to take my Muttley out, it wouldn't be fair on him otherwise. |
|
By:
PREPARE 83 I WILL NOT COMMENT ON THIS THREAD AGAIN I PROMISE YOU . BELIEVE ME PLEASE BELIEVE ME YOUVE GOT A BIG PROBLEM GO TO YOUR DOCTOR IF YOU DONT BELIEVE ME .BUT YOU MUST TELL HIM THE WHOLE TRUTH YES THE WHOLE TRUTH ABOUT WHAT AND WHEN YOU DRNK .HE CANT HELP.IF YOU DONT TELL THE TRUTH AND CUT THE CORRECT NUMBERS DOWN OF WHAT YO DRINK AND WHEN .IF YOU WANT TO SOEAK TO ME PRIVATLY YOU CAN MESSAGE ME OR START A THREAD DO WAH DIDDY I NED T KNOW MORE. I WILL NOT ANSWER ON THIS THREAD AS I DONT WANT TO MESS THIS IMPORTANT THREAD UP .BUT PLEASE PLEASE TRUST ME YOU HAV A BIG PROBLEM
|
|
By:
If alcohol is your predominant thought, then you have a problem. Take DWD's advice and get some help. Liver disease is an awful illness with mostly bad outcomes, I have just witnessed my best friend die from it and it was distressing. Good luck.
|
|
By:
a good thread with well meaning thoughts ,,,but here is my problem; i dont drink unhappy, sad, lonely . i really like good wine with my mrs , pints in the pub with mates , reading the paper in a pub on my own with a pint . the problem is people start drinking unhappy .
|
|
By:
I start drinking unhappy, but that soon changes
 |
|
By:
People are different with adictions.
Some people can take it or leave it, others can't stop once they start. Both my mate and I smoked and drank. He packed in smoking easily. He started smoking again some years later and easily quit again. He could start and stop as he pleased without getting hooked. While I had enormous difficulties quitting smoking, failing time after time. Yet with the booze I could cut right down and go weeks without a drink, have one drink and go weeks without a drink again and never think about it. He can't, he'll regularly drink three bottles of wine a night. He's put in over 40 years of non-stop heavy drinking. He gets depressed when he doesn't drink and now has given up trying to quit. He reckons he enjoys ever drop, and if kills that's too bad. |
|
By:
Delta we met up but looks like being just friends.
Thanks for everyone's replies and sharing stories. Not had a beer today but day off work tomorrow and feels rude not to have a beer this evening? |
|
By:
I was looking forward to a wedding invite
 Cheers for tonite! |
|
By:
If i ever find one you'll be there delta
 |
|
By:
I did 6 months off it with the Allen Carr book, never felt better and dropped 6 stone.
Back to where I was which is 10 cans of Stella, starting at about 5:30. Need to get back off it. |
|
By:
Keep at it creature. I did 8 months (no book or help) and then got back on it for another 6 months, but the second time around I wasn't enjoying it so I quit again. Now I can enjoy a can of beer whenever I feel like it, which (I swear) is less than one can a week. I even went to a wedding in May, downed 4 pints and again didn't touch a drop for at least a month after this and again, it was just a solitary can cos I felt like a beer one night.
What done it for me was the sleeping. When that got back to normal I did not want to risk waking 4/5/6 times a night and struggling to get back off. Sleep like a baby now and feel much better for it. |
|
By:
Cheers Aspro, funny thing is that I quit smoking about 12 years ago with Carr's book for about 2 months then started again,
I quit again after a month or so and this time it stuck. I can pinch the odd ciggy off a mate if I'm out, but never feel like getting locked in again. Would love to get to the same point with the booze. |
|
By:
Now there's irony... I have just purchased Allen Carr's 'Easy Way to Stop Smoking' for £3.10 (second-hand), but I'm yet to start reading it; it came with 2 CD's inside the front and back cover. Now if I could quit smoking (as I did the drink), then that would be something too. Never really tried to quit before but when I saw it at such a low price I thought the least I could do was try it.
|
|
By:
I did the whole read the book and quit after the last page thing, but lapsed.
The whole philosophy was in my head though, and a few weeks later I just stopped. The thought that the reasons smokers are stressed is because they smoke just resonated. Eg if 0 is non stressed, then smoke for a while and suddenly take away the nicotine and you're -3 stressed for no reason, so you need a smoke to get yourself back to 0 - he puts it better than me ! |
|
By:
No, I get your point creature. Will read with interest and see if it works for me. Been smoking for 40 years now so not going to be easy
|
|
By:
4th day now without a drink, doesnt sound long but is for someone who drinks every day.
Anyway here are my findings so far. Pros being im starting to get my energy back and have a better appetite and a clearer head. Cons being i now find it almost impossible to get to sleep and the evenings are so boring now without a few beers. Going to a friends tonight to watch football get a pizza etc and would normally take a few beers(8) So my question is would u have a drink tonight with a friend or continue to not drink? Problem is i really dont think i could live a life without drink(socialising) but i also dont think i'll ever just be able to have 2/3 drinks and stop. Thoughts? |
|
By:
Have also realised im not dependent as well as not craving a drink or shaking etc which is a good thing
|
|
By:
Four days isn't long.
I'd have a drink with the football and pizza, probably take some nice 330ml cans or bottles hoppy craft beers from the supermarket. Its the non-drinking days you have to worry about. Make sure the days are full. Make sure you are exercised - you will sleep better than with alcohol. Treat yourself to something other than alcohol. |
|
By:
prepared - it seems you only drink in the evenings?
I think it's about changing routine. Your body will react when you're at home, possibly alone at a certain time when you normally drink. It will tell you to drink. Try to change that routine. So the time you normally drink, go out. Drive somewhere, get a hobby, join a gym or go to the cinema. Anything to make sure you're doing something different at the time you would normally drink. You're using alcohol to comatose yourself from the boredom. The anxiety comes from the boredom. Address the boredom (not easy I know) and you'll be fine. For someone who drinks each day, 4 days is a TOP effort. |
|
By:
Stop worrying about it. Just get it down your neck. Your body will know if you've had enough and you haven't by a long way.
|
|
By:
What done it for me was the sleeping. When that got back to normal I did not want to risk waking 4/5/6 times a night and struggling to get back off
Waking up during the night is when you haven't had enough. |
|
By:
It aint easy just having a night off or 5....
Be true to yourself. Do not binge when after a few off the booze as well done. You have to find something to take your mind off...a routine...like for me, drink a cup of tea, then for some reason that's it. Body does not want booze. That's just my thing, then plug into a movie on Netflix. It's a snap thing, either I say fook it and have a cuppa or the booze goes down large... I am a nightmare to myself but am doing well. Habits take repetition x alot!! I plam my week and stick to it. I have had bad sleeps, good sleeps but when I do not drink, I feel on top of the world. Probs is, I love my days off and glug! Just be honest with yourself. |
|
By:
Thing is for most a life on the bottle is not bad at all.
It's only when it gives you something boring that it starts to matter. |
|
By:
|
|
By:
"Stop worrying about it. Just get it down your neck. Your body will know if you've had enough and you haven't by a long way. "
What a stupid thing to say, when you start showing symptoms of liver damage it's often far gone and permanently damaged. |
|
By:
If the OP had started with "I'm drinking two bottles of scotch a day and my skins's gone yellow" I may well have posted something different. He didn't he said he gets bored. Stop blaming drink for all the evils of the world there's much worse things out there. Pizzas for one.
|
|
By:
If its not "where should i take my girlfriend on a date?" its "should i dump my girlfriend?", now its "im drinking too much, what should i do?" - this lad was breast-fed far too long.
|
|
By:
Cons being i now find it almost impossible to get to sleep
You'll soon sleep, better than you ever did. In fact, I would go as far as saying that once I got my own sleep back to normal it became the incentive to continue without drink... love my sleep now and have not long woken from 9 hours solid It should also be noted that sleeping is actually worse when drinking; it may knock you off but a good night's sleep is nigh on impossible |