Shyness,A Beauty from Budapest and Public Speaking. . .

keyboard is plenty

Yes, public speaking is worse think you think it will be. It is nice to say something thoughtful but too many thoughts are a mistake,

Most people don't have any and there`s no point rubbing their nose in it.

walking is better than speaking, a lot can be achieved on a walk.

did you ask the beauty from Budapest if she would like to go for a walk? on a Sunday afternoon.

Down the woods or round a quiet country park would be nice

if you are going to give a public talk you will need a topic, perhaps as a suggestion you could give a talk on..

"Everyone I`ve ever known, everyone I`ve ever loved, everyone I`ve ever hated, everyone I`ve ever fu@ked"

That might be one name

I would be too shy to even attempt that

No, I don't have any thoughts on public speaking, but I think you're taking a fine approach to your shyness problem.

Think how you'll feel about it on your death bed: if you give a decent speech, you'll be proud; if you give a sh1t speech, you'll cringe and giggle; if you chicken out and don't give a speech, you'll sink a little lower as the blackness comes for you.

You only live once, amigo.

OP getting some good prep here

Hope your taking notes

@lfc1971,I don't really know anything about her but I'm very glad to say that I'll probably meet her again and if so I'll see how things go from there.She really is A Stunner!

@PatraTheCat,..THANKS!Amigo..

Good morning, Culvin.

I was once invited to give a talk at my old school, the thought of which filled me with great horror and apprehension so I can sympathise with your sentiments, sir.  I did feel a certain obligation to accept, however, so asked if it could be a question and answer session instead of a lengthy speech.  This was not what they had in mind (thank God) and I ended up declining, I just couldn't put myself through such an ordeal.  The truth is that I would have been truly dreadful, a bag of nerves.

Fast forward several years and I am now quite a confident public speaker.  My transformation began when I hosted a charity quiz in a friend's pub.  My performance that night was, frankly, very poor (far too introverted) but I had put a lot of work into the quiz itself and that proved extremely popular.  I've since acted as quizmaster hundreds of times, in pubs, clubs, churches, town halls, all over the place, and being the centre of attention no longer holds any fears for me.

If you wanted to try doing a few quizzes for yourself, as a relatively gentle introduction to public speaking, I'd be glad to send you some of mine free of charge.

Good luck, sir!  :)

@lfc1971,"everyone I've ever fu@ked"

Dear Pokermonster,I just wish to say to you Sir,that I Thank You very,very much for those words.

You're very welcome.  :)

Thanks to All but i'm off to bed now.I started working at an Hospital yesterday and its my second day today.I need to be up at 6.30...Goodnight!

i imagine you've given many talks on constitutional law lfc

culvin get sh1tfaced beforehand and it will all be a haze, drugs and alcohol preferably.

Hi jollyswagman,I won't be getting sh1tfaced but I think a few glasses of red wine may well help me to 'oil the wheels' as it where..When my dog Rocky was dieing in 1992 I smoked some cannabis,but apart from that time i've never used it again or used any other drug,for that matter.

I've decided that the speech I make will be about my struggles with shyness...

Don't do it Culvin, it's probably a trap.

Instead I think you should spend a warm summer day indoors writing frightening verse to a buck-toothed girl in Luxembourg.

After that we can address your coyness

I'd love to meet a buck-toothed girl.

Is the meeting tonight

Hope you never had a rough weekend or you are in for a rough ride

Watch out for the hecklers

Hi TheChaser,Yes!The meeting is tonight.I'm just about to leave in 10 mins or so.I feel a little nervous at the moment because I've not done a speech since I was at school and the speech i did then was a complete disaster.Tonight will be different.What ever happens,I'll learn from it.

Good Luck

Half a dozen quick pints should relax you.

picture your audience naked
then try not to laugh


but the main thing to remember is that most public speakers are awful, so even if you think your gig went pear-shaped, most people won't notice - they're used to that level of performance.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUqo5tPZjrM

watch this clip and have 6 pints and you will be the man of the moment

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For many,many years my balls may as well of been made out of cheese.I was afraid of everything and everyone.Most of the time i wouldn't even leave the house but during the last few months,after absolutely realising,that i must try and change,i did then indeed begin to change...I now feel that my balls are made not only from metal but they're made from a metal much stronger than brass.......Regarding the speech thingy,it went well or i should say,my introducing myself went well,because i didn't actually make a speech.As a new member all i was asked to do this week was introduce myself to a room full of people and as i said it went OK.I think i will be making a speech next week though and i think that i will speak about shyness,social anxiety,etc.

This monday is the day when I finally make my first speech.I will be speaking to a room full of confident and powerful people and i may well be afraid but that fear will not stop me doing what I need to do.

Just tell them to feck off and you want to fight them bare naked.

For years, it worked for The Glimmer Man on this very forum.

did you win the fight ?                                  Velasquez     16 Dec 16 01:12

Culvin
This monday is the day when I finally make my first speech.I will be speaking to a room full of confident and powerful people and i may well be afraid but that fear will not stop me doing what I need to do.


Thinly-veiled "I'm up before the magistrates on Monday for dogging offences the breadth of Merseyside".

... and over exposure in Blackpool?

WALOFS

I sussed Cuylvin months ago, he wasn't even a clever troll.

Sadly, many chit chatters just believe anything that's posted.

welcome back Stretch (or whoever you are)

I believe him, no reason not to.
As to being a troll I suggest you look up the definition of the word. Wiki starts:

In Internet slang, a troll (/ˈtroʊl/, /ˈtrɒl/) is a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory,[1] extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community (such as a newsgroup, forum, chat room, or blog) with the intent of provoking readers into an emotional response[2] or of otherwise disrupting normal, on-topic discussion,[3] often for the troll's amusement.

Doesn't start arguments or upset people (with one notable exception) so not a troll.

Of course he's a troll. He made up a false persona and daft stories, as in this thread.

People felt sorry for him with his tales of social anxiety etc and engaged with him as that person. He was just laughing at them, of course, and thinking up his next tale for his amusement. A sad man who showed his true side once he'd been outed. Maybe you didn't see that? Or do you just feel foolish?

There's nothing I could post that would change your mind and vice versa. So I believe him and you don't. Nothing antagonistic in that.

I don't think he's been outed as you put it and I don't feel foolish.

I think crags has it right tbh.

You obviously haven't read everything that he's posted! Check it out and a good evening to you.

Charlie

I have read everything he's posted crags. And a good evening to you to.

crags is a troll. I sussed him months ago.

I feel he has been trolling me since i joined here.

A couple of weeks ago,i decided i'd had enough of his constant negativity,etc and so i BLOCKED him.

I come here are for friendly chitchats and banter.I also come here to receive help,advice,etc...Ive basically never had a problem with anyone here apart from 1 person,he is the only person here who accuses myself of being a troll.He is also basically the only person here who accuses Annie of pretending to be a woman.I don't understand why the chitchat mods didn't kick his sorry,stupid little arsse into touch.

I haven't quite figured out who you were, Culvin.  But someone less-alcoholically challenged will tell me sooner or later. Or you'll drop broad hints.  Don't really care.  It's Xmas!

I'll gladly tell you the truth,bodil.

I'm not sure I want the truth. I'm not sure I can handle the truth. No truth-handler me.

The ABsolute Truth is that i joined this forum in june and ive never,ever been here before....That is GODS HONEST!

Then you are possessed by chit-chat daemons but are innocent. 4th circle of hell for you.

TRUTH and LOVE are the two most beautiful things in the world and i feel and know that all of us need both of them..I WISH YOU A VERY HAPPY CHRISTMAS!bodil.I hope that this Xmas can bring you TRUTH and LOVE.

GOODNIGHT,Sir!

Hell, yes.

Fook me.

Dec 15, 2016 -- 7:10PM, Velasquez wrote:

Just tell them to feck off and you want to fight them bare naked.

Dec 15, 2016 -- 7:12PM, Velasquez wrote:

For years, it worked for The Glimmer Man on this very forum.

indeed!

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Culvin really surpassed himself with this thread, and still getting away with it by the grace of some of the more naive on here