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Afternoon all. Ok what's your take on this please...
I've been with my partner 10+ years, happy "ish", apart from the odd argument here and there as is usual.
However the past few months something has been eating away at me that something isn't quite right. I can't put my finger on what exactly.
We've both never had trust issues, we both work hard, and have our own social lives, but admittedly I have checked her phone twice in the past month or two without her knowledge, due to this feeling I have had.
On the first occasion I checked her phone, she has been texting a man I do not know, who I have gathered works at her place. Nothing out of the ordinary I must add.
However I checked her phone again yesterday, very briefly (quick 30 seconds).
This same man was the most recent (Facebook) message. The message went like this.....
"***** I'm really sorry, I truly am. I'm such a selfish bitch, I'll leave you alone from now on"
Any explanation as to why the **** she would feel the need to text that to a random bloke I don't even know? Any rational reason whatsoever?
Add to the fact, the previous chat history between them has now been deleted which doesn't bode well at all.
Anybody who knows my Mrs would point blank refuse to believe she would do the dirt, including myself up until yesterday, I was 100% certain yesterday I was just being paranoid, and now I cannot look at her without wanting to do something I will regret, but I'm setting about to gain more evidence than just that one message in the meantime.
Any thoughts/suggestions? Could do without the piss takers as well, this could potentially be a family breaker.
Cheers
I've been with my partner 10+ years, happy "ish", apart from the odd argument here and there as is usual.
However the past few months something has been eating away at me that something isn't quite right. I can't put my finger on what exactly.
We've both never had trust issues, we both work hard, and have our own social lives, but admittedly I have checked her phone twice in the past month or two without her knowledge, due to this feeling I have had.
On the first occasion I checked her phone, she has been texting a man I do not know, who I have gathered works at her place. Nothing out of the ordinary I must add.
However I checked her phone again yesterday, very briefly (quick 30 seconds).
This same man was the most recent (Facebook) message. The message went like this.....
"***** I'm really sorry, I truly am. I'm such a selfish bitch, I'll leave you alone from now on"
Any explanation as to why the **** she would feel the need to text that to a random bloke I don't even know? Any rational reason whatsoever?
Add to the fact, the previous chat history between them has now been deleted which doesn't bode well at all.
Anybody who knows my Mrs would point blank refuse to believe she would do the dirt, including myself up until yesterday, I was 100% certain yesterday I was just being paranoid, and now I cannot look at her without wanting to do something I will regret, but I'm setting about to gain more evidence than just that one message in the meantime.
Any thoughts/suggestions? Could do without the piss takers as well, this could potentially be a family breaker.
Cheers
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Could do without the piss takers as well
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Say your phone isn't working for some reason and you need to contact someone asap for whatever reason.
Look at the call history, see what you find. Then just send a text to whoever you are contacting, this gives you leeway to look at her texts. You can now approach her in a friendly manner saying that while you were texting whoever you stumbled across her texts to this guy and ask her straight out what they are about, try make nothing of it so you're not accusing her of anything. Your instict will then tell you either way by her face and reply. There may be nothing in it. This way you're not being a snoop and it's not confrontational. |
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send him a s*xtext and if he responds in a positive fashion.....guilty as charged
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Got to be more clues cracka you'll know things like knocking you back, change in patterns, you need to find out who the bloke is too.
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"***** I'm really sorry, I truly am. I'm such a selfish bitch, I'll leave you alone from now on"
probably pounced on his sausage in the works canteen, if it was the last one he's bound to be annoyed |
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You've definitely chosen the right place to ask for advice.
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A couple of things, for what it's worth.....
1 - Gather more evidence, it does sound a bit suspect to me but one txt msg doesn't equate to your missus having an affair. 2 - Trust your own instincts. Although you only have that one txt to go on, sometimes our gut instinct is spot on (sorry mate). 3 - Be prepared for some pith taking on the forum. 4 - Be prepared for some bad news, if your missus is having a fling. Is there something you could do, romantically to spice things up? 5 - Be prepared for some more pith taking from said forum. Ignore. 6 - Keep us updated...we love a bit gossip here. |
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Pump her tonight and when she is climbing the walls (hopefully) whisper in her ear "Who's this bloke you've been shagging?
Go to the sound of the guns my friend; the only way.. |
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Try not to judge her too harshly.If it's just a bit of fresh c()ck she's after its a fairly normal craving having been in a monogamous relationship for 10yrs.We're all human, complete with desires and frailties. If it's a love job then that's a more serious matter.Keep your powder dry Intel you have firmer evidence.
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It's obviously a love job for the bloke. She's told him she won't leave her hubby but she still wants the pumping! Hence the selfish bit...
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Looks like the other bloke has tried to knock it on the head. She can't accept it and keeps texting him.He has to be lucky everyday.. She only needs to get lucky once.
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very simple answer to it,jeremy kyle,lie detector test and then youll know
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Before you go any further you need to ask yourself this question.
"Do I really want to know"? Because if she is/was cheating and you get her to confess, it's a whole new ball game. Once the genie is out of the bottle, it can't be put back. |
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Has she been feeding the ducks?
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is her father's nickname tea towel by any chance?
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Another point. As you are taking the moral high ground then you shouldn't have any skeletons in the cupboard yourself. If you have then sure as hell she will know about them already.
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chit chat is always a good haul for fishermen
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She was texting a man she works with? If the texts weren't business-related, why would she text him? Then there's the text you quoted. That is definitely very personal.
You'll never trust her again and you know it. Live in misery for the rest of your life or leave. If you decide to leave, do it quietly. Be as sneaky as she is. Put together an escape fund that she doesn't know about even if it takes you a year, sort out a job in another town or even another country, then leave when she isn't there. Main thing to watch out for now is her getting pregnant. They often try that when they end an affair. It's to stop the guy they've been cheating on from leaving. |
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Kin ell Galli.. You posting from a village in Pakistan?
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Kin ell Galli.. You posting from a village in Pakistan?
classic |
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Try and go out with the fella, to see what the hype is all about.
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At it Like Knives ..
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affair texts are much shorter
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at least she's not been feeding the ducks
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go get urself an escort in retaliation
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don't think buying a car is gonna be any consolation GRANTCKING?
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confront her and look deep into her eyes and you'll be able to tell if she's lying or not. ask her outright until she owns up to it. she might not have cheated but she's been thinking about it with the laddie from work by the sounds of it.
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I thought this was another Lizzie thread...
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I found out my lady was cheating by reading her phone messages and there was no doubt about it, see what you folks think....
Her message said, Thanks for last night Fernando, it was so much better than the previous night with my boring bald pot bellied loser krankie jock twaat. I must admit to having a wee chuckle at that message. I don't think she meant it. |
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^^With regard to the OP, 1.00000000001 she's been at it. |
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I'll leave you alone from now on
jesus wept..... an absolute 1.01 shes been at it. |
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MC
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Think we need to move on and ask Have the Back doors been smashed ?
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Ask her flat out whether she has been feeding any ducks of late.
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p.s Sounds like she wants her cake and eat it. You at home as a pair of comfy slippers and the bloke at work who she just wants to get jiggy with.
Gl mate  |