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27 Jul 14
12:46
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Not long now till the birth of my first child and can't wait till he's here.Really strange feeling being nervous/excited etc at the same time.
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First child...
You'll look like you've been on a weekend bender for two years
you'll have bags under your eyes big enough to go shopping with
you'll be in serious need of sleep
You'll check that the baby is still breathing when it stops crying
You'll check again in the middle of the night when it's quiet
A boy is guaranteed to piss in your face before he's 3 months old when you're half way through changing a nappy
Baby poo is like radioactive waste, it stinks to fack, and sticks like velcro to anything it touches.
It's all great stuff
Welcome to parenthood
(Being a grandparent is even better, you can send the little fackers home when they misbehave too much)
You'll look like you've been on a weekend bender for two years
you'll have bags under your eyes big enough to go shopping with
you'll be in serious need of sleep
You'll check that the baby is still breathing when it stops crying
You'll check again in the middle of the night when it's quiet
A boy is guaranteed to piss in your face before he's 3 months old when you're half way through changing a nappy
Baby poo is like radioactive waste, it stinks to fack, and sticks like velcro to anything it touches.
It's all great stuff
Welcome to parenthood
(Being a grandparent is even better, you can send the little fackers home when they misbehave too much)
Add u will worry about Him /Her till the Day you Die ,and you now have the full picture
Cheers for that .Sounds like i am in for plenty of fun and games.Have to admit baby poo is one thing i am not looking forward too.
.Sounds like i am in for plenty of fun and games.Have to admit baby poo is one thing i am not looking forward too.
Rule number 1
There is no rule book.
They're all unique from the day they're born
What works for one may not work for a later sibling
As you're bound to find out
And no matter how big and tough you think you are (assuming you're a man)when your two year old hands you a toy telephone while you're watching racing, you'll take it and say 'Hello, who is that?'....to nobody....simply because you're a dad.
There is no rule book.
They're all unique from the day they're born
What works for one may not work for a later sibling
As you're bound to find out
And no matter how big and tough you think you are (assuming you're a man)when your two year old hands you a toy telephone while you're watching racing, you'll take it and say 'Hello, who is that?'....to nobody....simply because you're a dad.
Yes i am a man.To be honest as bad as it sounds i can't help thinking about the money side of things.Don't get me wrong am happy as humanly possible to have a little on one the way(were trying for few years,mrs was told she could not have kids without the help of IVF,got the appointment through for hospital and found out a day later she was pregnant)its just i see my brother and his mrs struggling from month to month.Mrs and I both work full time,always been comfortable but she will be having 9-12 months off so obviously her money drops.We have no clue what/ or if we are entitled to anything as not clued up on anything like that.
you should work as many hours as you can so you dont have to do any baby chores
hth
hth
You will be ok money wise because you will make sacrifices. For example, we didn't go out spending any money on meals, cinema, racing etc for a long while. You won't care because your whole world is about to change for ever. I can remember my now 12 year old being born like it was yesterday, I collapsed in a heap next to the mrs and we both cried for England...There is nothing you will will ever experience like meeting your first born for the first time. Good luck mate!! It is very tiring though and your other half will be more tired than you, trust me. Cracked nipples aint fun
Best thing ever in my life. Little tree is an angel.
U get used to the nappies.
The no sleep thing has not happened many times for us so lucky.
Wife has halved her work hours and we manage. You just seem to find a way to cope.
Best of luck that feeling when you first hold your child is priceless.
U get used to the nappies.
The no sleep thing has not happened many times for us so lucky.
Wife has halved her work hours and we manage. You just seem to find a way to cope.
Best of luck that feeling when you first hold your child is priceless.
Good luck. Can't beat being a parent, but it has aged me 10 years and he is only 4! No joke. I am naturally a fairly laid back guy, but the worry has fked me lol. Still worth it though 
next thing you know you'll be told you are going to be a grandad and wonder where the time went
don't worry about baby poo as it's your baby's poo.
Even when he pisses in your face you won't mind ... well not too much
Even when he pisses in your face you won't mind ... well not too much
My first kid...I had a portable TV in the birthing room as it took so long 
"[i]The Mrs was told she could not have kids without the help of IVF
Why so serious, I don't understand, , why did she need the help of the International Monetary Fund to get her pregnant.?
Why so serious, I don't understand, , why did she need the help of the International Monetary Fund to get her pregnant.?
First kid = knackering, like being hit by a car every day, practically no sleep for the best part of a year.
Second kid = You look at people with just one and wonder what they're looking so tired for, it's at least 3 x the work of just one, another year of no sleep but also the second one is waking the first one up and the knock-on from that is a nightmare.
Third kid = No facking chance, I keep a mobile phone in each pocket now.
But - It is amazing, just kind of drifted into it with no great opinion either way but would never go back to how it was before, it's an entirely new life as long as you throw yourself into it. Enjoy (next year).
Second kid = You look at people with just one and wonder what they're looking so tired for, it's at least 3 x the work of just one, another year of no sleep but also the second one is waking the first one up and the knock-on from that is a nightmare.
Third kid = No facking chance, I keep a mobile phone in each pocket now.
But - It is amazing, just kind of drifted into it with no great opinion either way but would never go back to how it was before, it's an entirely new life as long as you throw yourself into it. Enjoy (next year).
Would be nice to have just ONE reply saying it's a doddle.Babies sleep right through the night and you never hear a peep out of them
I'll hopefully stick to being an uncle. I love my nephews and I love handing them back when the crying and whining start, just as I loved handing them over when a smell appeared.
Would be nice to have just ONE reply saying it's a doddle.Babies sleep right through the night and you never hear a peep out of them
Works both ways.
Experiencing the harder side of it with your first baby may lead you to think you don't want any more. Having an easy one first may be misleading if you get a 'lively' one second.
My eldest grandson(3) by youngest daughter, had slept all through the night since he was about 6 months old, but stays awake all day. He's an only child, and daughter still works full time.
Youngest grandson (4 months) by eldest daughter, wakes at night, but has a kip during the day. He's the youngest of 3 children, and daughter is glad of a nap if she can get the youngest 2 asleep (4 months and 2 and half years) at the same time (but it's rare) while the eldest(11)is at school.
I'm from the 'old school'
No getting up and feeding babies in the night for me.
Their mum packed up work when she was 6 months pregnant with the eldest daughter, and I worked long hours for years to pay for it all.
My youngest is married, and as she reckons it will only happen once, (unlike her mum amd dad)
she said it's worth spending money on (£25k+)
The eldest isn't married, but her and 'hubby' have been together since they were about 15, and started living together when they were 18. Three kids down the line they don't care about geting married now, but she sometimes says 'You owe me 25 grand, just to keep things even.' which is a subtle hint that she heeds a few quid for something.
Mark my words, once you're a dad, you'd rather be skint with kids, than rich with no kids.
And if you can get your daughters to turn lesbian you save on white weddings
Works both ways.
Experiencing the harder side of it with your first baby may lead you to think you don't want any more. Having an easy one first may be misleading if you get a 'lively' one second.
My eldest grandson(3) by youngest daughter, had slept all through the night since he was about 6 months old, but stays awake all day. He's an only child, and daughter still works full time.
Youngest grandson (4 months) by eldest daughter, wakes at night, but has a kip during the day. He's the youngest of 3 children, and daughter is glad of a nap if she can get the youngest 2 asleep (4 months and 2 and half years) at the same time (but it's rare) while the eldest(11)is at school.
I'm from the 'old school'
No getting up and feeding babies in the night for me.
Their mum packed up work when she was 6 months pregnant with the eldest daughter, and I worked long hours for years to pay for it all.
My youngest is married, and as she reckons it will only happen once, (unlike her mum amd dad)
she said it's worth spending money on (£25k+)The eldest isn't married, but her and 'hubby' have been together since they were about 15, and started living together when they were 18. Three kids down the line they don't care about geting married now, but she sometimes says 'You owe me 25 grand, just to keep things even.' which is a subtle hint that she heeds a few quid for something.
Mark my words, once you're a dad, you'd rather be skint with kids, than rich with no kids.
And if you can get your daughters to turn lesbian you save on white weddings
casemoney is spot on...... i brought up my boy to work hard and educated him privately hoping he would earn lots of money and keep me in my old age....he's living in Columbia playing internet poker ! As long as he's happy i'm happy.
Some good stuff on here.
You'll love it, WhySoSerious. It's the only life-changing thing I've ever experienced. It's hard work but it's wonderful - just moments of pure love.
In my experience as the father of a 5 year old and an 18 month old (both girls):
- call me a taxi is right. There are no rule books. Listen to advice from people you respect and then you both do what you think best. The sleeping through the night bit is a good example. My view? Kids at that young age are like animals - you need to train them. You go through pain and frustration but when you've cracked it you're all better off. Plenty of experts would disagree though.
- paulypaul is also correct about the money. You make sacrifices without even thinking about it which makes things a little easier. You say you have no clue as to what you're entitled to? Find out. Ask your HR department at work and get the missus to ask hers. Do some googling or ring Citizens Advice. All this could take literally one hour and you'll likely be better off. By and large any UK govt supports families and provides financial help, sometimes means tested.
- As I said at the start, it's going to be amazing. But do one thing - talk to your partner all the time. I didn't and I split from my wife when our eldest was one. I wasn't ready for the huge life change, felt alienated and our relationship unravelled. We were very lucky - started talking again, got back together 9 months later and now have our beautiful youngest. It's a stressful time though, be prepared for that. How you interact now will probably determine what it's going to be like when the little one arrives. My wife had a great job but I was always going to progress further career-wise. As a result, when the baby came I let her do the vast majority of the work. Plus babies don't really "need" their fathers and don't interact much generally for the first few months. As such my life didn't really change that much - went to work, went out after work when I wanted and at the weekend thought it was "my time to relax". Hopefully you're less of a selfish tw@t than me(!), but talk to your partner about who's going to do what. Give each other time off to do things you like, apart and together. If you've got family nearby they'll be a godsend.
What else?
- It gets easier every day with babies
- Baby poo is nothing! You become almost instantly immune to it.
- From the age of 1, marvel at the effect that Peppa Pig (and only Peppa Pig) has on very young kids. It is audio-visual crack cocaine.
- Getting home from a tough day and work and being recognised by your baby or greeted by a toddler screaming "Dada!" in joy makes every sleepless night worthwhile.
Best of luck to both of you. It's the most fantastic adventure.
Yeasty
You'll love it, WhySoSerious. It's the only life-changing thing I've ever experienced. It's hard work but it's wonderful - just moments of pure love.
In my experience as the father of a 5 year old and an 18 month old (both girls):
- call me a taxi is right. There are no rule books. Listen to advice from people you respect and then you both do what you think best. The sleeping through the night bit is a good example. My view? Kids at that young age are like animals - you need to train them. You go through pain and frustration but when you've cracked it you're all better off. Plenty of experts would disagree though.
- paulypaul is also correct about the money. You make sacrifices without even thinking about it which makes things a little easier. You say you have no clue as to what you're entitled to? Find out. Ask your HR department at work and get the missus to ask hers. Do some googling or ring Citizens Advice. All this could take literally one hour and you'll likely be better off. By and large any UK govt supports families and provides financial help, sometimes means tested.
- As I said at the start, it's going to be amazing. But do one thing - talk to your partner all the time. I didn't and I split from my wife when our eldest was one. I wasn't ready for the huge life change, felt alienated and our relationship unravelled. We were very lucky - started talking again, got back together 9 months later and now have our beautiful youngest. It's a stressful time though, be prepared for that. How you interact now will probably determine what it's going to be like when the little one arrives. My wife had a great job but I was always going to progress further career-wise. As a result, when the baby came I let her do the vast majority of the work. Plus babies don't really "need" their fathers and don't interact much generally for the first few months. As such my life didn't really change that much - went to work, went out after work when I wanted and at the weekend thought it was "my time to relax". Hopefully you're less of a selfish tw@t than me(!), but talk to your partner about who's going to do what. Give each other time off to do things you like, apart and together. If you've got family nearby they'll be a godsend.
What else?
- It gets easier every day with babies
- Baby poo is nothing! You become almost instantly immune to it.
- From the age of 1, marvel at the effect that Peppa Pig (and only Peppa Pig) has on very young kids. It is audio-visual crack cocaine.
- Getting home from a tough day and work and being recognised by your baby or greeted by a toddler screaming "Dada!" in joy makes every sleepless night worthwhile.
Best of luck to both of you. It's the most fantastic adventure.
Yeasty
yeasty
28 Jul 14 22:25
Some good stuff on here.
- call me a taxi is right.
If I PM you my phone number can you tell my Mrs that
28 Jul 14 22:25
Some good stuff on here.
- call me a taxi is right.
If I PM you my phone number can you tell my Mrs that
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