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12 Feb 14 22:31
Date Joined: 05 Aug 12
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My wife got out of bed with me at 6am yesterday, had a cuppa tea and a smoke, then she went upstairs to do her hair. All of a sudden she couldn't move her arms so she started to really panic. I called an ambulance and she was rushed to hospital. Within 6 hours she had no movement in her left leg either.
We have been told today that she has a damaged spine to the C4, and there is no surgery they can do to make things better. If she doesn't start moving her limbs off her own accord in the next couple of days, then she may never get any better than she is now.
It's unbearable watching the woman you love, laying in a hospital bed and thinking yourself, this could be how you live the rest of your life.
I will stand by her til the day she dies, and if that means caring for her full time then that is what i will do.

How can a healthy women deteriorate to such an extent in the matter of hours?

Please people, don't worry about trivial things in life, it's just not worth the worry.

I have prayed today for the first time in a long while, and i would give anything for this one prayer to be answered. CryCryCry
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Report Tommy Toes April 14, 2014 12:41 AM BST
Kenbo, this might give you a laugh.
I've just checked back and it wasn't the first day of Cheltenham, but the Newbury comp at the end of Feb when RoyClaytonsTash said on the thread:

RoyClaytonsTash     28 Feb 14 13:57 

"Somebody should post some selections on s.kenbos behalf."

Followed by:

pumphol.     28 Feb 14 14:01
"You pick them Roy, SF will score them, no problems."

RoyClaytonsTash     28 Feb 14 14:07 


Ziga Boy
Stone Light
Ultimatum Du Roy
Etheridge Annie

"dont fine him ffs Plain"

pumphol.     28 Feb 14 14:12 

pumphol.     28 Feb 14 14:13 
Which one is the nap? Crazy

RoyClaytonsTash     28 Feb 14 14:17 
Sorry Nap Ziga Boy
Report sofiakenny April 14, 2014 1:05 AM BST
liverpool won ..aberdeen lost..a grim day..till i read this..yyyyyyyyyyeeessss!!!
great stuff!GrinGrin...hope all continues on an upward direction.Happy
Report Facts April 14, 2014 1:26 AM BST
Brilliant news kenbo. Hope the improvement continues a pace. Best wishes to you and your wife. We take our health so much for granted. It's only when something horrendous occurs,that life is put into perspective.
Report geoff m April 14, 2014 6:25 AM BST
Report tommycockles April 14, 2014 11:11 AM BST
Great news sk, best wishes to you both.
Report RoyClaytonsTash April 14, 2014 12:49 PM BST
Great news about Traceys improvement.Hope to see you back for Sandown comp sk.
Report patrick starr April 14, 2014 2:09 PM BST
Very best of luck to you and yours sk,a frightening read this thread and so glad ive only picked it up now where mrs sk is recovering so well,wishing you all the very best of luck.
Report STUDYFORM April 14, 2014 9:17 PM BST
I am really pleased for you both. Let's hope Tracey's improvement gathers speed and you can get back to as normal as you'd want.
Report Ivor April 14, 2014 9:29 PM BST
sooper dooper Grin
Report casemoney April 14, 2014 9:40 PM BST
Great News Sk Happy all the best to you both Happy
Report Insanity Later April 14, 2014 11:06 PM BST
Don't give the dog any more of the leftovers from your cooking wait till Tracey's back at the helm. Happy

Great to see this thread back with some good news, keep up the good work both of you.
Report s.kenbo May 26, 2014 7:38 PM BST
More good news. Tracey came out of hospital three weeks ago and she's continuing to improve each day.

She is home alone most days and has ways of managing most things that she needs to do. Physio are around every week day and she has turned down any home help.

Walking is a bit of a struggle, but she is managing to do it by herself. Her left arm still has next to no movement but we are hopeful of improvement there too.

I'm hoping all this could be a distant memory in a years time.
Report Capt__F May 26, 2014 7:42 PM BST
great news
best of luck to you both
Report twizzle22 May 26, 2014 7:45 PM BST
Thanks for the update ken..all the best to Tracey and yourself.
Report mange May 26, 2014 7:46 PM BST
Cool M8
Report RoyClaytonsTash May 26, 2014 8:05 PM BST
Great news sk,seems like a vast improvement .Things are looking upHappy.
Report mobo May 26, 2014 8:09 PM BST
That is incredible - I honestly thought - oh well another nasty turn of events and totally undeserved.  Doesn't it lift your heart to hear such good news.
well done and hugs and love etc
all the best
Report spellingandgrammarchecker May 26, 2014 8:12 PM BST
Absolutely fantastic s.kenbo, best news I've read all week Happy
Report Burton-Brewers May 26, 2014 8:39 PM BST
well done
Report FOYLESWAR May 26, 2014 8:47 PM BST
pleasing news and on behalf of all  the betfair forums ,   good luck to you and your missus and family  now and  in the future !
Report s.kenbo May 26, 2014 8:55 PM BST
Thank you guys, you really are a good crowd on here. Cool

And Roy, would you care to explain my poor performance in the recent placepot comp! Laugh
Report RoyClaytonsTash May 26, 2014 9:03 PM BST
Its quite simple.You are crap.
Report mobo May 26, 2014 9:07 PM BST
Wow!! I remember those early posts and there were tears in this house.   So so  good - you guys just get it on together and bless every day
Report s.kenbo May 26, 2014 9:15 PM BST
Roy LaughLaughLaugh

Mobo, there was tears in this house too! She's already far better than i ever thought she would get, but the greedy side of me keeps wanting more.
Report Muntz Street May 26, 2014 9:17 PM BST
Great news, s.kenbo
Report kincsem May 26, 2014 9:35 PM BST
Best wishes.  Progress slow or fast is all good.
Report creatureinthesky May 26, 2014 9:42 PM BST
Great news, you obviously mean so much to each other Happy
Report Dan Chipowski May 26, 2014 9:49 PM BST
Splendid news, there's no substitute for human spirit.
Report call me a taxi May 26, 2014 11:19 PM BST
26 May 14 20:55   
And Roy, would you care to explain my poor performance in the recent placepot comp!

26 May 14 21:03   
Its quite simple.You are crap.


SK, that's great news about Tracey.
Report Ivor May 27, 2014 1:08 PM BST
Tidy boyo :)
Report Blackrock May 27, 2014 6:59 PM BST
Glad things are on the improve SK. My wife keeps asking me how you two are getting on. She'll be delighted with your news.
Report stewarty b May 27, 2014 7:20 PM BST
That is a very pleasing update SK. Long may the progress continue.
Report s.kenbo May 27, 2014 8:27 PM BST
Thanks again everyone. Cool
Report raspberrybottom May 27, 2014 10:00 PM BST
26 May 14 21:15
05 Aug 12
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Roy LaughLaughLaugh

Mobo, there was tears in this house too! She's already far better than i ever thought she would get, but the greedy side of me keeps wanting more.

Stay greedy SK - it must be helping! Happy

Great news!
Report Makybe_Diva May 28, 2014 5:06 PM BST
Brilliant news! Happy
Report bookie 25 May 28, 2014 6:16 PM BST
Remember reading this thread with a lump in my throat.Excellent news SK and hopefully it gets even better :)
Report Tommy Toes May 29, 2014 1:19 AM BST
Terrific news, S Kenbo. I'm really pleased for you both.
Report casemoney May 29, 2014 1:49 PM BST
G luck to you both and your Family Happy
Report ayr May 29, 2014 2:19 PM BST
good luck kenbo
Report s.kenbo February 14, 2015 10:29 PM GMT
Well that year's flew by.

Last year I gave her a valentines card whilst she was in a coma, this year I left it on the table in the dining room and she opened it once she walked down the stairs this morning. Grin

Many of you already know that Tracey's made a much better recovery than the Doc's thought she ever would, she's walking round the house unaided, albeit wobbly on her feet. She's also managed to get to a couple of Derby matches this season and a trip to Uttoxeter races in the last few months, which has meant quite a bit of walking with a stick.

She does an NHS physio session every three or four weeks plus a private physio each week, it all seems to help her. Her main problem is a subluxed  shoulder which causes her pain, the specialists saw her last week to see if they need to fuse her shoulder or see if things improve in time, they chose the latter for now because it could take two and a half years for the nerves to regrow. The left arm still has no movement yet.

She's back working two days a week, which she's really enjoying, and she does a bit from home one day a week. There's still loads of hospital/doctors appointments she has to go to but things are looking good. Before we know it it'll be Feb 2016 and I hope I can add some more good news then.

Thanks for all the well wishes we received on here.  Cool
Report spellingandgrammarchecker February 14, 2015 10:31 PM GMT
Well done Tracey.
Report Pre-Fat-Low-Fat-Foods February 14, 2015 10:32 PM GMT
Report Makybe_Diva February 14, 2015 10:45 PM GMT
Happy Valentines Day to Mr & Mrs Kenbo Love
Report s.kenbo February 14, 2015 10:50 PM GMT

Very unlucky in today's Placepot MD. Happy
Report Makybe_Diva February 14, 2015 10:54 PM GMT
Thanks, Kenbo. I'm very happy with second place tho' Happy
Report Burton-Brewers February 15, 2015 9:15 AM GMT
a nice story to start the day, all the best to both of you
Report SlippyBlue February 15, 2015 1:54 PM GMT
Great news s.kenbo, well pleased for you both.
Report Ovalman. February 15, 2015 2:01 PM GMT
Great news Kenbo, wishing you both the best.
Report s.kenbo February 15, 2015 2:02 PM GMT
Thanks all. Cool
Report akabula February 15, 2015 2:18 PM GMT
Nice to read some good news for a change. Hope MrsK gets back to full health soon MrK.
Not sure taking your missus to Derby matches is a good thing though. Laugh
Report gawdalmighty February 15, 2015 2:23 PM GMT
Great news, Kenbo. Good luck to you and your wife. We moan and worry about the little things, like losing a lay bet but at the end of the day those things are so unimportant. What matters is our family and good health. You have come a long way in the last 12 months, long may it continue!

Good luck & good health Kenbo & Mrs Kenbo  Happy
Report HH Sultan Vinegar February 15, 2015 2:24 PM GMT
that's great news kenbo. Wishing you both all the best Happy
Report Ivor February 15, 2015 2:29 PM GMT
ttt :)
Report Aladdin Sane February 15, 2015 2:51 PM GMT
This has been so touching.  Very rarely have I read EVERY post on one thread. From everything Mr and Mrs Kenbo have been through, to the messages of warmth and encouragement from so many contributors. Thank you for sharing this s.kenbo, it puts everything into perspective.  May I add my own wishes to you both. The courage and strength that you've displayed has been inspirational.
Report SlippyBlue February 15, 2015 3:09 PM GMT
Well said A.S. I totally agree with you as I'm certain everyone else does as well.
Report mange February 15, 2015 3:23 PM GMT
same as.............G.L.
Report Hank Hill February 15, 2015 3:51 PM GMT
Seems a really positive update kenbo. n1 Cool
Report tictacman1 February 15, 2015 4:11 PM GMT
All the best to you both, great news sir
Report s.kenbo February 15, 2015 5:34 PM GMT
Aladdin. I was so unsure when I started this thread whether I was doing the right thing or not, I'm not normally the type of bloke who'd open up to a group of strangers about something so personal. But as you said the support I got on here was fantastic, I could be more honest typing my feelings on here than I ever could at the time speaking to friends and family about it.

Thanks yet again everyone. CoolCool
Report casemoney February 15, 2015 10:08 PM GMT
Report Tommy Toes February 15, 2015 11:35 PM GMT
Great update, S.Kenbo.

Really hope Tracy gets back to full health in the fastest of time.
Report Capt__F February 15, 2015 11:41 PM GMT
Nice won ExcitedGrinGrinGrinGrinGrin
best of luck to you both and all on here
Report hearts1874 February 16, 2015 11:09 PM GMT
forgot about this thread, great update kenboGrin
Report Blackrock February 17, 2015 4:34 PM GMT
Great news Mr, Mrs SK.

I have no doubt that your tremendous fighting spirit has brought about results way higher that your expectations.

You have my best wishes for the future.
Report s.kenbo February 11, 2016 4:42 PM GMT
Two years to the day since it's happened. Where does time go?

There's been no real change since the last update. Her left arm is still useless but there's slight movement there now. We've had our first holiday since it happened which I was dreading tbh, but that went fairly well so I've no qualms in us going again soon.
Her mindset is still fantastic and she's dealing with it superbly. I think they main thing she misses is driving, because she's always reliant on me/others and she feels like she's lost her independence.
Report padlock February 11, 2016 4:50 PM GMT
Sad life is tough at times,im caring for my parents,hard work,one with dementia,other stroke etc recovery
Report s.kenbo February 11, 2016 4:56 PM GMT
It's not easy mate but it has to be done. You've been dealt a bad hand with those two things happening to your parents.

Good luck. Cool
Report Johnny_Mustang February 11, 2016 5:05 PM GMT
I remember this thread first time round Kenbo and great to hear that she's dealing with everything. All the best to you.
Report s.kenbo February 11, 2016 5:10 PM GMT
Cheers, Johnny. I tell her having a superstar for a husband must make her life easier! Wink
Report Johnny_Mustang February 11, 2016 5:13 PM GMT
Report Blackrock February 11, 2016 5:36 PM GMT
Thanks for the update SK. All the best to urselves and Padlock.
Report s.kenbo February 11, 2016 5:50 PM GMT
Thanks, Blackrock. And thank you for last years best wishes too. Cool
Report guinness2dear February 11, 2016 6:20 PM GMT
Good job we're both pervs, SK, or the last few years would have been hell for us both..

Keep the hugs a comin...
Report s.kenbo February 11, 2016 6:37 PM GMT
Whatever gets you through these things imo............ Wink
Report Makybe_Diva February 11, 2016 9:25 PM GMT
More best wishes from me Love
Report Capt__F February 11, 2016 9:28 PM GMT
best of luck kenbo team
Report diddlydee1 February 11, 2016 9:36 PM GMT
best of luck Kenbo.
Report s.kenbo February 10, 2017 7:23 PM GMT
It's three years tomorrow. Her mobility hasn't got any better, but she's learned how to deal with it all and takes it in her stride. She got a disability car last week, and had a couple of driving lessons yesterday to get use to the adaptions.

I've just skimmed through the thread, and it was like having an out of body experience reading it again. Once again, thanks to everyone (even you Stewarty b!) for all your well wishes at the time, and since, it did/does mean a lot. Cool
Report pumphol. February 10, 2017 7:31 PM GMT
All the very best to both of you Ken
Report Makybe_Diva February 10, 2017 7:55 PM GMT
Thanks for the update, Kenbo. I'm glad to hear Mrs Kenbo has a car and will have her independence for getting out and about  Happy

Best wishes to you both x
Report posy February 10, 2017 8:05 PM GMT
Have just seen this thread for the first time and whilst i've not read through it all I would just like to wish you both well.I can't really imagine many worse things happening than what happened to your wife.
Report SlippyBlue February 10, 2017 8:19 PM GMT
Best wishes to your missus s.kenbo and all your family.
Report Ovalman. February 10, 2017 9:19 PM GMT
So glad things are much more positive, puts life into perspective.

Best wishes.
Report stewarty b February 10, 2017 9:38 PM GMT
Thanks for the update Steve. All the best for the future for the both of you. Even though mrs kenbo gives me no lip.Wink
Report SPOT THE DOG February 10, 2017 9:46 PM GMT
All the very best to your wife and you kenbo, stay strong.
Report s.kenbo February 10, 2017 9:51 PM GMT
Thanks guys (and Maykbe). Cool

See you again in a years time!
Report pumphol. February 10, 2017 10:03 PM GMT
Might run into you before then Wink
Report s.kenbo February 10, 2017 10:15 PM GMT
Whilst trying to go in the opposite direction from me!

I'm your Kathy Bates! Wink
Report s.kenbo February 10, 2017 10:39 PM GMT
Daffyd. LoveBlush
Report deepblue February 11, 2017 1:51 AM GMT
Not in uk at the moment ,sitting in hotel room bored and saw this thread for the first time.
Brings life little things into perspective. Best of luck. Deepblue
Report s.kenbo February 11, 2017 9:10 AM GMT
Very true, Deepblue. Thanks.
Report Basil_the_don February 11, 2017 9:13 AM GMT

I don't often comment on here but feel compelled to after reading this thread for the first time. It's a real eye opener as to how people's lives can change overnight through no fault of their own.

When I made my first ever post on the HR forum you (and Chelsea Girl I think) immediately came on to welcome me to the forum. It didn't take much for you to do that but meant an awful lot to me at the time and gave me a good idea of the type of person you are. I've always considered you to be one of the most down to earth and happy go lucky characters on the HR forum which, in light of what you and your wife have been through in the last few years, is some achievement in itself.

It's heartening to read that she's now getting some of her independence back with the new car. I wish all the best to both of you going forward.
Report s.kenbo February 11, 2017 9:28 AM GMT
What a lovely thing to say, Basil . Thanks mate. Love
Report bigmo February 11, 2017 9:37 AM GMT
Best wishes for the future.
Report Johnny_Mustang February 11, 2017 10:04 AM GMT
Yeah, stay lucky Kenbo and all the best to your wife.
Report GoOnThen February 11, 2017 10:07 AM GMT
Wishing good things for the both of you.
Report Blackrock February 11, 2017 10:30 AM GMT
Echo all the posts previously. Good luck for the future Mr and Mrs SK.
Report Slicer February 11, 2017 2:48 PM GMT
Just wanted to add my best wishes. It is amazing how adaptable the human body is and remember the prime instinct is survival. Make the most of the your time- it becomes even more valuable as you get older and inevitably runs out. This is no consolation to you, but recently it fell upon me to attend cancer clinics in the private sector over a period of months. Without going into any details I found out what I always new to be true, that those with  positive attitudes make the best of their situation. Look to the future, make the best of it and good luck!
Report Hank Hill February 12, 2017 12:12 AM GMT
Hello kenbo. I'm sorry the update did not bring better news, but it is very positive that your wife is doing her best to adjust. I can't believe it is 3 years since your original post. Wishing you both the best.
Report annie. February 13, 2017 7:42 PM GMT
I seemed to have missed this thread, kenbo, for which I am really sorry Sad 

I am so glad it has turned out much better than was hoped, you deserve it.
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