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01 Oct 13 18:56
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not a pushy parent,he seems clearly bored of it.

problem is the teams top 3 outa 3 wins and my kids goalkeeper,theres no back up keeper so would
be a loss to the team.

my question is - do i make him play out the season??

only 3 games in long way to go or maybe could say he plays untill he finds replacment?

cheers for any advice/opinions
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Report Cubanpete October 1, 2013 7:01 PM BST
Find out what he wants to do instead of playing. If he comes up with a good alternative let him quit, if not make him play.
Report sideshowbob October 1, 2013 7:01 PM BST
give him the old hairdryer treatment.
Report judorick October 1, 2013 7:06 PM BST
a Viz Top Tip might say "force him to play for as long as you can so he resents you and leaves home early hence saving £££££"

dont recommend that

best guess is he is unhappy with the coach or other players, is getting bullied or something like that, find out what it is

then go from there
Report sofiakenny October 1, 2013 7:09 PM BST
put him on a strict diet and he may enjoy an outfield position..everyone knows the "fat" kid is the goalie.
Report Eeternaloptimist October 1, 2013 7:16 PM BST
Talk to him like an equal and don't try to enforce your view over the top of his. Ask him to be honest with you. Find out what it is that's causing it and then agree a way forward. Perhaps ask him to give it another month or so and if he still feels the same way then agree that's what happens. That way he sees you're a reasonable parent, one to be trusted but that you can't just leave people in the lurch. Have a quiet word with the coach to give him some notice that it may be coming.

All good lessons for his life journey.
Report 11kv October 1, 2013 7:16 PM BST
If the team is that good he isn't involved is he ,tell to ask to play on pitch for a few games or swap at half time must be another kid who can go in goal for half a game.............speak to the coach/manager..
Report creatureinthesky October 1, 2013 7:30 PM BST
He has made a commitment and should honour it until they find a replacement.

Make sure he isn't unhappy there for any other reason but if he isn't, it will teach him a lesson about seeing things through, or maybe a Homer Simpson type lesson of 'Son, never commit to anything'.
Report Burton-Brewers October 1, 2013 7:30 PM BST
been there done that and resented my dad all his life for it, let him find his own way
Report lfc1971 October 1, 2013 7:31 PM BST
can be quite stressful being goalkeeper, nowhere to hide
Report Roger The Butler October 2, 2013 9:06 AM BST
Unless you are really thin and then you might be able to hide behind a goalpost.
Report patrick starr October 2, 2013 10:37 AM BST
if he wants to do something else and not sit on his a55 playing fifa then fair enough,if he wants to sit there playing fifa,find him a rugby team and boxing club n all,that'll learn him
Report Angel Gabrial October 2, 2013 10:42 AM BST
Tell him to be resilient and keep going art least until they find another goalkeeper. Have a word with coach and see if he can get the other lads to give him more praise and give him man of the match award.
Report dizzydavid1 October 2, 2013 10:53 AM BST
Eternal optimist's advice is the best, covers all the bases well , imo.
Report History Maker October 2, 2013 11:13 AM BST
Yup, EO's way is the best way forward, with the proviso that the kid do something else constructive instead.

Worth remembering that a month for an 11 year old kid is pretty much like four months for the average dad of that kid.

In terms of perception. Relative time, and all that.
Report History Maker October 2, 2013 11:17 AM BST
You could also tell him from me that my cousin played in goal for one of the best local kids teams, and ended up going semi-pro at the age of 16. He was only paid £20 a match, but still, it's better than a kick in the balls, and telling an 11yo that he could get £20 a match would seem like heaven to him.
Report Velasquez October 2, 2013 11:35 AM BST
You need to take it a stage further than this ; pay the kid £20 now, per game. This will boost his status within the team as he will be the only pro...if he wants to chuck it at the end of the season, then fair enough ; just make sure you arrange a testimonial for the kid, preferably against Celtic Boys' Club as they will bring a large travelling support.

Another thing you can do is hire a good looking young girl to cheer him on and scream his name from the touchline.
Report lmfao October 2, 2013 11:39 AM BST
are you really asking for genuine advice- on here?Shocked
Report Velasquez October 2, 2013 11:43 AM BST
Can't believe the rubbish I wrote there...start again ; hire TWO good looking young girls and get them to have a cat fight on the touchline ; "He's my baby...", "No, he's MINE!" etc.
Report naydam October 2, 2013 11:44 AM BST
Valasquez. Maybe she could just shout "Come on you Goalie"?

That might be a bit less embarrassing for Montmorency.
Report Velasquez October 2, 2013 11:46 AM BST
Be sure to film it and upload to YouTube...a massive confidence boost for your kid and you make a few bob...what can possibly go wrong...?
Report Velasquez October 2, 2013 11:49 AM BST
Naydam - "Come on you Goalie" ?

Not sure about this...we want to make the kid feel like a PLAYER, not just a goalie...how about, "We ADORE you, most high Gloved One..."
Report CLYDEBANK29 October 2, 2013 11:55 AM BST
If the team is top of the league and he's goalkeeper he's probably a bit bored!  Who'd want to be a keeper?  Unlike all the other players he's not got the benefit of being active and getting fit.  Having had 8 years of taking my sons to football matches, I cringe at the antics and comments of the coaches and some of the parents.  If he wants to quit you must let him quit, but I personally think it's good to encourage them to participate in sport as it will help them in adulthood.  If you've got sufficient outside space and money you could for example buy an outdoor table tennis table and play against him.  It's cheaper in the long run than paying for clubs.
Report akabula October 2, 2013 11:58 AM BST
An 11 year old should be doing what he's told to do.
He refuses? Good! Take anything he likes from him.
The thread is either a wind-up or you're a poor parent.
Report Velasquez October 2, 2013 12:01 PM BST
Good idea from Clydebank...Clydebank, when you say "clubs" are you thinking of GOLF? Table tennis might be cheap and convenient in the short term but there are not many dollar-billionaire table tennis pros...we have to consider the bigger picture here...
Report creatureinthesky October 2, 2013 12:07 PM BST
I think a third, pregnant 11 year old girl should turn up and lay claim to him too.
Make him look like a real man.
Report akabula October 2, 2013 12:09 PM BST
Following on from that and assuming he has refused I'd buy him goalie gloves for his next 5 birthdays and Christmas's and nothing else.
Report Velasquez October 2, 2013 12:10 PM BST
And a social worker...or better yet, some sort of lifestyle guru from Rehab...
Report erse2 October 2, 2013 12:12 PM BST
fart on his noggin
Report akabula October 2, 2013 12:13 PM BST
Maybe it could be raised at the PMs question time in parliament.
Report boxingthefox October 2, 2013 12:19 PM BST
erse2, Laugh although never made public (yet) an insider told me that a certain Manchester club manager used that method to great effect. Laugh
Report boxingthefox October 2, 2013 12:19 PM BST
erse2, Laugh although never made public (yet) an insider told me that a certain Manchester club manager used that method to great effect. Laugh
Report thedodgepot October 2, 2013 12:35 PM BST
Offer him a score for a clean sheet.  He will be up at 6am on matchdays warming up.
Report boxingthefox October 2, 2013 12:37 PM BST
He can't have a score and a clean sheet, well not in his goal. Crazy
Report erse2 October 2, 2013 12:43 PM BST
clean sheets sound nice...
Report boxingthefox October 2, 2013 12:47 PM BST
Yes the ones with the brown motif are soooooo last year.Laugh
Report erse2 October 2, 2013 12:55 PM BST
i'd prefer to term it a winning streak Cool
Report naydam October 2, 2013 2:06 PM BST
Hmmmm. Looks like the 'Well of good Advice' has run dry. GrinGrin
Report THERE....IS....NO....SPOOOOON October 2, 2013 2:27 PM BST
No it hasn't. Happy

Boy's obviously gay.

Make him play.

Definitely needs to ditch the goalie spot.

In what other sport can he drama queen and throw himself on the ground, holding a leg, squealing like a girl?
Report erse2 October 2, 2013 2:48 PM BST
he could see how quick he can get red carded
Report THERE....IS....NO....SPOOOOON October 2, 2013 2:52 PM BST
creatureinthesky 01 Oct 13 19:30 Joined: 24 Oct 10

He has made a commitment and should honour it until they find a replacement.

Make sure he isn't unhappy there for any other reason but if he isn't, it will teach him a lesson about seeing things through, or maybe a Homer Simpson type lesson of 'Son, never commit to anything'.


Seriously, I'm with The Creature. Shroooood Cool
Report naydam October 2, 2013 3:01 PM BST
So, who keeps goal if he is sent off? I know it's only a junior league, but the rules are gonna be similar, if not identical.
There must be somebody who COULD take his place. Kids should be enjoying their sport so they should get a turn at different roles. You can't expect all the other kids to support one or two Prima Donnas. The results aren't that important...the enjoyment IS.
Report dustybin October 2, 2013 3:13 PM BST
Hes clearly owned the sport, like fergie said....how do you motivate 11 millionaires?
Report History Maker October 3, 2013 12:22 AM BST
Being a football goalie is one of the oddest positions in sport. 19/20 kids that play the position have been coerced,bullied or persuaded into the position.

How tall is the nipper, and you and the missus? Unless he's likely to hit at least 6'2" (or has really long arms), it's actually probably not worth his while. Having said that, aforementioned semi-pro cousin is only 5'10"ish.

Also, tell him to take up rugby. It's more fun!Grin
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